050: Dealing With Jealousy + Wanting What You Don’t Have

Reframing and reworking jealousy has been a GAME CHANGER for me. I'm highly sensitive, so jealousy isn't just wanting what I don't have: it's also feeling BAD about wanting it, feeling GUILTY for spending time wanting it, and feeling like a lame person for focusing on it instead of focusing on "uplifting others." It sends me into a shame spiral, and I don't get anything done when I'm in a shame spiral. There' a saying that goes “Jealousy works the opposite way you want it to.” And it’s true: without a sense of control over your own jealousy, it pushes people away, squelches opportunity, and is one of the most effective forms of self-sabotage. Yet learning to harness your jealousy can actually inform you of an important missing link, the most important element in any relationship. On today's episode, I'm going to share a few strategies that have worked for me. Find yourself prey to your own jealous mind? Here’s what to do. ~~~~~ Show Notes: Episode post - leave a comment here I Am Still Learning: On Leaving Your Job Sign up for The (Good) Word Read the transcript of this episode here (if that’s more your thang) Our sponsor this week is Franklin and Whitman, an all-natural, plant based, cruelty free skincare line with a mission to make your skin AND the world a better, kinder place. Frank + Whit donates 5% of all sales to various rescue dog organizations. Try some of my favorites - their Cleansing Serum, their Oak Lane face mask, their dry shampoo - and more. Be sure to use the code WANT at checkout for 20% off your entire order at franklinandwhitman.com.