The fear of judgment keeps too many amazing people playing small. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Rhonda Lavoie gets brutally honest about the times she was the judge, teaching you the system of Self-Analysis. You'll learn why that frustrating, neutral reaction to your biggest ambitions—like the Paced App—is a "Them Problem," a reflection of their own baggage and fear, not a verdict on your worth.

In This Episode (Video Timestamps):

• (00:10) - The primal reason we fear judgment: Your anxiety is just your primal survival instinct at work.

• (01:50) - The framework: Why stepping into The Arena means criticism is a certainty.

• (02:30) - The hard truth: Why your own internal criticism is the root of the Them Problem.

• (03:23) - Failure 1 (Upward Comparison): Rhonda's unfiltered "What could you write a book about?" moment.

• (04:56) - Failure 2 (Fear of Loss): The internal battle when a friend joined the competition.

• (06:33) - Let's Make This Real: The 30-second self-analysis challenge.(07:08) - The Passive Them Problem: Why the Paced App conversations "fall flat".

• (08:37) - Rhonda's self-analysis: The 5 reasons for the neutral reaction (Intimidation, Envy, Fixed Mindset, etc.).

• (11:49) - The Lesson: Understanding their Anchor and seeing criticism as "mere data" about their internal state.

• (13:35) - Tease for Part 2: Forging Your Armor and curating whose opinion matters.

  
  

Resources Mentioned:

• This episode discusses concepts related to Dr. Brené Brown's work on vulnerability and The Man in the Arena.

• Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app.

  
  

This Week's Challenge: The next time you criticize someone else's big dream, stop and ask yourself: "What insecurity of mine is this reflecting?"

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Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.