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Dear b&g: My biggest insecurity in friendship


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Last week, Da Eun asked for Sophia's advice regarding the workplace. Today is Sophia's turn to ask for Da Eun's advice.

TODAY'S TOPIC: I notice that overall, you’re very proactive in maintaining friendships and making new friends. For example, there are many times when a friend from hs reacehs out and you make time to catch up. Also, when you see someone interesting on LinkedIn, you’re great at reaching out and following through on scheduling time to get to know each other. I want to be like you, but I think some barriers for me are:

  1. I’m scared to be tired when the time of the scheduled call/meetup comes around: I feel like my energy level is unpredictable, and I really dislike the feeling of being tired but having to muster up the energy to meet someone, EVEN IF I end up following through and enjoying the conversation. 
  2. I know I over-value spontaneity yet that knowledge isn’t enough to push me to catch up with people: I like the feeling of keeping my evenings free to be spontaneous…even though I’ve learned again and again that once I go out and see people, I end up being really happy I did.
  3. Deep down, I’m afraid I’ve become a less interesting person. It’s hard to re-find that energy and desire to meet up with people, when I wonder what how people's perceptions of me will change upon meeting up.

Do you have any tips on navigating these particular barriers?

Resources mentioned
Old/New Identity Activity on TikTok
clay.earth to support you in deepening friendships

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