I need to hear the indirect no. I want to reserve the reward for the actual result, rather than give it for assertion/promise to help. Talk is cheap as FUCK. And talk is not action. I need simpler requests, to resist the urge and even pressure to provide explanations or accept BS or (ugh) thank people for judging me. Nope, keep that, stop talking. I need to go. In the future, if you can’t ask before sharing your views on my problems and won’t actually do anything, keep cakehole zippered! Oh well, it’s information, specifically: “don’t ask this person for help, move on.” Need to hear the covert no. And not settle for rewarding the yes, or a soft yes that doesn’t include a follow-up (i.e. you check your schedule and get back to me by the end of the day tomorrow or I’ll ask someone else, appreciate your understanding — or I could just put you down as ‘No’ and move on). I don’t have time for wasters. I need to keep cleaning house when it comes to my attention and who I spent time and words on. I’m still fighting for my life, not networking at a cocktail party. Socialising can come after the war’s won, with everyone left standing.