Unpopular Opinion!

Women are now using the phrase “I Have boundaries” to escape dealing with survival tactics from unhealed traumas! Boundaries are essentially walls we put up to effectively keep dysfunction out. A lot of us women are, or have been victims of narcisstic abuse from men in some way and to those that have not healed, your “boundaries” are triggered by any engagement a man tries to have with you. That’s not a boundary, it’s a trauma-response. Once I healed myself I was able to recognize the difference. If you are not able to comfortably interact with men who show interest in you without going off on them for simply trying to get to know you, those “boundaries” have become your new trauma. I man should not have to beat any walls down to prove he can be respectful and devotional. As a matter a fact, the healed men will run the other way once they recognize that hardened feminine aspect of you. It comes across as attitude and emotional instability. You will not need so many “boundaries” once you feel safe within your feminine energy again. Men are not your enemy. Allow the men who are worthy to get to know you and practice opening yourself up again to receive the love, devotion, and respect you deserve.

I love you all and I hope you are able to heal! ❤️❤️🙏🏾 from a woman uplifting woman.