If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I keep my house tidy?” while stepping over toys for the hundredth time, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I sit down with my friend Heather Clark, founder of Declutter for Change. We start with the stuff. The toys. The cupboards you avoid. The mess that never seems to stay gone. But very quickly, we get to what’s actually underneath it.

We talk about why clutter feels so heavy for moms, why it triggers shame instead of motivation, and why so many women blame themselves for something that isn’t a discipline problem at all. We explore how motherhood, past identities, survival mode, and unspoken “shoulds” all pile up, both in our homes and in our heads.

This isn’t an episode about perfect systems or becoming more organized. It’s about understanding why letting go can feel so hard, and why clarity always comes before motivation.

If your house feels overwhelming and you secretly think that says something about you as a woman or a mother, this conversation will change how you see it.

If you don’t want to carry the same chaos into the new year, I’d love for you to join my WTF Reset, a free 5-day reset created specifically for mompreneurs who want clarity, direction, and momentum that actually fits their life.

Inside the WTF Reset, I help you:

• Reconnect with your vision and direction
• Get honest about your real capacity in this season
• Reset your focus, priorities, and expectations
• Create a simple 30-day action plan that works with you, not against you

This is not about pushing harder or doing more. It’s about resetting how you move forward so your business finally feels doable again.

The WTF Reset starts January 12 and it’s completely free.

👉 Sign up and give yourself a real reset before the year takes off.

You can find Heather:

@declutterforchange or on her website

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