One of the first questions parents are taught to ask is:

“Is this normal?”

And I understand why.

Normal sounds safe.
Normal sounds reassuring.

But neurologically…normal is a very blunt tool.

Because development doesn’t happen in neat categories.

It happens in patterns.

Two babies can look completely different —
and both be developing appropriately.

And two babies can look the same —
while their nervous systems are doing very different things underneath.