Default to "Yes"

Hello everyone, so today I want to talk about saying yes more so and maybe

yes is a default. So yesterday I was talking with my sister and I was just

over at her house and and her son came over and asked if he could have a

soda and she said yes and I we continue talking and I said, oh man, it just

feels so nice to be able to say yes to your kids right and she said yes, or

I really nice and and she said I tried to say yes as much as I can and yeah

the way that I feel about it.

Is like my kids will sometimes ask me why I say no all the time and I say

no you got this backwards you just ask me questions that I'll say no to all

the time that's the problem and and so anyway, I've just been thinking

about this and I feel like more of my default should be to say yes as a

default so I I should be like the burden of proof should be on the no

answer so it should be more of like why should you why would you say no

rather than trying to justify the yes and the reason that I'm sharing this

with?

You all is not because I know the you're not all parents and stuff um, but

because I feel like this is like parenting is a really great example or am

an what's the word I can't think of the word I'm looking for but like it it

relates very closely to relationships in general and um as much as we like

to pretend it's not software is a lot about relationships, especially when

you're working at a company and so if you're a team.

Lead or you're managing a team of engineers or something like that you want

to default to guess and so rather than just kind of seeing these people

that you're you've got a relationship with as you know, it's somebody that

you have to endure or appease or whatever you should be trying to see how

like how you can help them be happy and satisfied with the relationship and

that I I think defaulting to yes, most of the time is a good practice and

so,For a lot of the time I default to know with my kids if they want to ask

me something I'm automatically thinking okay, how can I say no but I'm I

think that it is better to switch that up and instead think how can I say

yes and focus more on finding reasons to say yes and there should be more

weight on the yes than on the no so anyway hope that's kind of useful to

you in whatever you're doing relationships are awesome and have a wonderful

day.