For a long time, “protect and provide” felt simple:
 Pay the bills. Keep the family safe.

And for many of us, that definition made complete sense — especially in homes where the man worked and the woman handled the home.

But what if the tension a lot of families feel isn’t about roles…
 it’s about the question we’re asking?

In this episode, we unpack the quiet mindset many men carry:

• Why fairness can turn marriage into scorekeeping
• Why “protect and provide” often gets defined too narrowly
• And how expanding that definition — not replacing it — can change the way home feels

This isn’t about doing everything.
 It’s not about equality arguments or erasing roles.

It’s about asking a better question — and letting that question lead us to a better answer.