As you get older, you can either build anchors that tie you to a specific version of life or learn how to move freely toward new ones. Abby and I reflect on this as we talk about the slow, often invisible process of learning to trust yourself outside of performance or validation, and the space between who you are onstage and who you are when no one is watching. We talk about growing up singing in church when music felt far from a career, borrowing delusional confidence before it became real, and the moment TSA wiped out every one of her project files.