How well acquainted are you with ... tops, bottoms, otters, wolves, bears, cubs or twinks?    Sara and Jye take a lighthearted look at some of the most common terminology used in the gay world with their guest Tom Attenborough this episode.    Tom shares his views on the classic "nature vs nurture" debate, and questions if it really matters. We also discuss the biggest stereotypes about gay people, whether the "gaydar" actually exists, and how the gay scene in Hong Kong compares with the rest of the world.    We then debunk the biggest myths around gay sex, and discover why there's a lot more to gay sex than "one person bending over, and the other smashing it in"!     ---    Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram Detailed show notes for this episode here. Produced by Jye Smith (@doublestarco, jye@doublestar.co)     

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Why do we feel jealous? Jealousy is often a complex, catch-all word that encompasses the emotions of fear, anxiety, disappointment, or anger.   Some people romanticize this feeling in relationships. Others use jealousy as a justification for controlling and destructive behaviour.   On this episode, Sara sits down with Emily, Dedeker, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory Podcast (https://www.multiamory.com/), to unpack the topic of jealousy.   We start off by defining what jealousy is, and sharing candid personal experiences to show it’s a familiar, normal feeling.   Instead of trying to avoid or repress jealousy at all costs, Emily, Dedeker and Jase provide a healthy perspective and evidence-based tools on how to deal with jealousy, based on their own relationship research.   Ultimately, feeling some jealousy could be a sign that there’s something you need to work on in a relationship with a partner or on yourself. And it’s crucial to do some self-reflection to identify the root cause of the emotion.   This episode is filled with practical advice about navigating difficult emotions in relationships. Tune in now to understand what your jealous feelings are telling you, and how you can manage them the next time you experience it.   ---     Unlock the secrets to female orgasm   http://sarasense.com/ohhh. Use code BETTERINBED30 for 30% off the masterclass   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com    Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Check out Multiamory's book for relationship tools http://multiamory.com/book   Support this show http://patreon.com/betterinbed or https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sarasense 

58. Managing Jealousy in Relationships ft. Multiamory

Yoni massage, which has its origins in Tantra, has recently been getting a lot of attention in the sexual wellness space.    What is the meaning of Yoni anyway? It’s Sanskrit term that means “sacred portal” and it represents all the female genital parts - the vulva, vagina, womb and feminine essence.   On this episode, Sara is joined by her sex-positive friend Will and Viv Kan (https://www.mindfulintimacy.co), a mindful intimacy coach. They discuss the benefits of yoni massage, what the experience is like and how to incorporate this practice in our intimate lives.    For some, a yoni massage can be used to release emotions or trauma stuck in the pelvic area. And for others, it can be the start of a sexual awakening.    Both Sara and Viv share their memorable experiences around Yoni massages, and how orgasm is not the end goal but an exploration of one’s body and sexual empowerment.    Viv also breaks down how to give yourself or someone else a Yoni massage — from setting the stage to exploring the different parts of female genitals. There are a bunch of practical tips in this episode.    Be inspired to embrace your sensuality and awaken pleasure with this liberating practice by tuning into this episode.   ------   -   Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   -   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   -   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   -   Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: OhMiBod (http://lovelifetoys.com) - 15% off with code BETTERINBED and Adam & Eve (http://adameve.com) - 50% off & free shipping with code BETTERINBED   -    Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

57. The Healing Practice of Yoni Massage

Many of you are busy people with multiple responsibilities and who lead stressful lives. So how do you navigate a good work life, sex life balance?   On this episode, Sara talks with Lisa Fei and celebrity matchmaker Carmelia Ray about how to juggle a busy work life and maintain a fulfilling sex life. Respectively, Lisa and Carmelia are the Founder and Head Coach of the relationship wellness app, Clarity (http://clarityapp.io) which offers tools for navigating every stage of your relationship journey.    Carmelia starts off by defining what an ideal work life, sex life balance could look like and how this is always shifting over time, and with different situations e.g. kids, stress, hormones etc.   We then discuss practical things to do where we’re so busy with work that sex feels like a chore or falls to the bottom of our to-do list.   One of the key takeaways from this episode is that it’s always possible to make time for sex in our busy schedules, it’s just a matter of priorities. Research shows that a good sex life can be beneficial to your career, by reducing stress, boosting productivity and job engagement.   So if you’re someone who’s frequently too busy at work, this episode will show you how to bring balance into your sex life with healthy conversations, good planning and a shift in mindset.      ​​-     Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   -     Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   -     Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   -     Check out the Clarity app: http://clarityapp.io   -     Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

56. Achieving Work Life, Sex Life Balance

On this bonus episode, I’m sharing an excerpt of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science.   You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality.   In this preview, Emily answers a listener’s question about losing the motivation to have sex and introduces us to a concept known as the "dual control model,” which offers a simple but radical shift in the way we think about horniness.   ----   ​​-     Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   -     Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   -     Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   -     Listen to Come As You Are at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/caya?sid=better   -     Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

55. Bonus: The Science of Horniness from Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Curious about attending a sex party, also known as a play party?   Think about entering a party with a giant bed, and everyone’s exploring their kinks and fetishes. It’s a smorgasbord of pleasure…   On this episode, Sara speaks with a sex-positive couple, James and Kat, who enjoy organizing sex parties. They share their experiences on the ins and outs of planning such a party.   James and Kat share the motivations of people in joining a sex party and the kinds of people one might meet at such an event. James and Kat also confess the best and worst play parties they have ever attended.   We give practical tips about the sex party experience— from how to find one, prepare for, and behave at the party. We discuss basic party etiquette such as safety, consent, and so much more.   If you’ve ever fantasised about sex parties, this episode will give you the low-down on what you can expect from attending, or even planning one of your own.      ---   -   Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   -   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   -   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   -   Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: OhMiBod (http://lovelifetoys.com)   -   Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

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