The second Noble Truth in Buddhism states that desiring is the cause of all suffering, so some of us can think that it’s a bad thing.

In this episode, Anya and Mark explore desire in all its forms and functions.

Three prompts

1. What do you want?
2. Is it a need, a want, or a desire?
3. What would happen if you were guided by your desires?

Resources

• Wikipedia definition of desire
• The four noble truths
• Compassionate Mind website
• The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life's Challenges (Compassion Focused Therapy), by Paul Gilbert
• Vincent Felitti: "It is hard to get enough of something that almost works.”
• The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul, by Danielle Laporte
• PERMA model
• Comfort, stretch, panic zones model
• Laminated Book of Dreams, Bill Bailey
• [Personal, permanent, pervasive](https://wisdomsummary.com/the-3-ps-of-emotional-resilience/#:~:text=After spending decades studying how,negative events in our lives.) - plus an exercise, Martin Seligman
• Avoidance goals (wanting to avoid pain)
• Anhedonia
• Michael Neill - check out his book The Inside-Out Revolution: The Only Thing You Need to Know to Change Your Life Forever
• Undefended Love, by Jett Psaris and Marlena S Lyons
• Need ⇒ Want ⇒ Desire ⇒ Preference ⇒ No preference
• “The aim is not to quench your thirst. The aim is to develop the perfect thirst, so that you never stop drinking.”
• “Look for the chimneys” - Merlin Mann
• “Dropping anchor” - free audios with Russ Harris
• Do not leave your longings unattended
• How expansive is your emotional vocabulary?
• Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver
• Anya Pearse, Intuitive advisor and her An Hour of Kindness

This podcast is produced by Origin.