267 Desire, Sexual Sovereignty, Sexual Trauma – Desilets

Desire: Women Claim Sexual Sovereignty After Sexual Trauma

In a society that benefits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.

                                                                                                                          Hamash Alidina

Dr. Saida Désilets – A thought-leader and speaker on the growing edge of researching ways women can use their minds, bodies, and spirits to create richer lives through their sensual selves – even after sexual trauma. Saida serves as a guide to women who believe in transformation as a lifelong path of learning, discovery and walk to freedom.

But it was a violent rape, sexual trauma, that nearly cost Dr. Désilets the life that put her on this Path.

She’s Strong On Straight Talk

Self-described as a “street-savvy, equipped with feisty farm-girl strength and the grace of a dancer,” she was by no means naïve. In fact, this French Canadian native was raised on a First Nation’s reservation in Manitoba where sexual abuse of children, teens, and young women was common. Yet, despite seeing that openly, she never expected to be so violently attacked by a man she was actually dating. The shocking violation left her in such excruciating physical and emotional pain and damage that, upon waking up after emergency surgery, she was told she had only two weeks to live.

But live she did! “I chose to defy the surgeon’s diagnosis, and instead, chose to live. Life after the rape, after near-death, takes on a different quality,“ she says.” Either you become a shut-down, just-getting-by version of yourself or you suddenly feel like you’ve been given a new ticket on life. I felt the latter. My journey started in defiance. I defied death. I defied the badge of a victim. And I claimed myself in ways I never knew possible.”

Tune in – she spares no punches.

Photo by Molly Belle on Unsplash

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Her Unexpected Tragedy

Yet, despite seeing these open transgressions, she never expected to be so violently attacked by a man she was actually dating. The shocking violation left her in such excruciating physical and emotional pain and damage that, upon waking up after emergency surgery, she was told she had only two weeks to live.

Consider this – you don’t have to experience rape, sexual trauma, or specific disrespect to learn from Dr. Désilets. This very interesting interview addresses the evolution of women thinking about their own strengths and more private issues with sexuality – their own sexual reawakening.

Ed Note

This is our second interview with Dr. Désilets – the first at CBJ/204.

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Website, Book & Video Commentaries

* Website: http://saidadesilets.com/ – There she offers a free video training series: The Three Myths That Are Killing Your Pleasure – And What To Do About It.

* The emergence of the Sensual Woman – Awakening Our Erotic Innocence, 2013 – Desilets – Global Amazon Link

* Desire – Her most recent book – 2018 – Desilets

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Additional CBJ Experts Weigh In Women’s Issues, Narcissism

* Denial & Self Deception – <a href="http://corebrainjournal.