In this episode of Integrating ADHD, Cameron Gott explores what happens when we get stuck on the question of 'how?'—how to save the relationship, how to keep the job, how to manage the day—without having a solid foundation underneath it. Building on last week’s conversation about regret, Cam introduces the idea of developing an “informed how,” especially for adults with ADHD who often feel like everyone else was handed an owner’s manual that somehow got placed just out of reach.

Rather than offering another step-by-step system, Cam slows things down and looks beneath the surface of “how” by exploring four key circuits—what, when, who, and why—drawing inspiration from Russell Barkley’s work on executive functioning. Through real client examples, he illustrates how confidence and trust in one’s daily decisions don’t come from finding the perfect method, but from integrating these circuits in a way that reflects what truly matters, how time is experienced, and how we show up in relationships and work.

The episode also introduces Cam’s Six Steps to Informed Change, a practical and compassionate framework that emphasizes not going it alone, respecting how your brain works, developing reliable practices through testing and reflection, and tending to basic human needs like safety, connection, and hope. 

If you’ve been overwhelmed by endless “how-to” advice and are craving a more grounded, human approach to ADHD, this episode invites you to step back, build awareness, and develop a way of moving through the world that actually fits you.

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