You read that right! Too often we thing when we struggle, have stress and anxiety, there is something WRONG with us! That we might have a mental illness…but what if it was actually something else entirely?

Dr. Sasha Heinz is not only BRILLIANT, she will help you see things in a completely different way! We start out by talking about self-compassion, but we quickly turn into a conversation like I’ve never had before. I’ll be forever changed from it.

Dr. Heinz talks about how we, as women, as moms, are socialized to prioritize other's needs - ok, nothing new here…but she goes on to talk about how when we feel threatened, we revert back to our survival instincts of fight or flight BUT women, move into “tend and befriend”. It’s a completely different way of responding to stress than men.

Tend and befriend is about us feeling so responsible for everyone else, that we aren’t taking our own needs into consideration and use people pleasing, perfectionism and analysis paralysis that’s only keeping us trapped!

Here’s the best part! We can evolve past this! We are just stuck in a developmental stage as adults and with some internal work, we can be free of these disempowering behaviors! We can become people who consider others' opinions but aren’t ruled by them.

There is so much more in this episode I know you’ll love! I could have talked to her for hours!

For Dr. Heinz’s handout, “How to Say NO Without Being a Jerk”, you can download it from the Parent Toolbox. www.parent-toolbox.com