In this MUM episode, harm reductionist and sex & intimacy coach Cara Kelsey shares their practice of deviancy and its connection to deathwork.

About Cara Kelsey:

Cara Kelsey is a mixed ethnicity, white, polyamorous, trans queer from the desert (O'odham Land) and the bay area (Ohlone Land). They are a harm reductionist, deathwalker, sex and creative relationship coach and somatic bodyworker. They are co-founder and resident deviant of Peace Out Loud, a community project and muti-generational, muti-cultural trans and Black led collective. They co-create spaces for grief, shame, rage, sex and joy and hold containers for unknowing and deep curiousity. They are committed to following Black and Indigenous leadership and answering calls to action and service. All of this work is possible and sustainable through a sacred and substantial grief practice. All of this work is done in an endless pursuit to put their ego to rest.

Link with Cara:

• Siren and Deathling


• Deviance as Holy: a subversive storytelling project told through art and media that is not only focused on, but wholly devoted to, deviance.


• Peace Out Loud


• Instagram

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