My Quads Have Entered the Chat

Let’s talk about the body we live in… because apparently, our quads have opinions. 😂
In this episode of Did She Just Say That?, we’re getting real about body image, body types, and the pressure to look a certain way. We talk about comparing our bodies to other women’s, the clothes we choose to highlight the parts we actually feel good about, and what happens when we’re not feeling so confident.

We’re also talking about aging, changing bodies, and the sometimes uncomfortable journey of embracing the body we were actually built with—not the one we thought we were supposed to have.

We get vulnerable about the moments we haven’t felt attractive, feminine, or comfortable in our own skin—and where some of that criticism comes from in the first place.

And yes, men, this one’s for you too. Body image pressure doesn’t discriminate, and we’re talking about the expectations men carry about their bodies, too.

Because maybe loving your body doesn’t always mean loving every inch of it. Maybe sometimes it just means giving yourself a little more grace, wearing the damn outfit, and letting your quads enter the chat. 💁‍♀️
Come laugh with us, get uncomfortable with us, and maybe walk away seeing your body a little differently.

You know the drill. Pull up that chair! 🪑 

Love, 

Ash & Chess 💛

When was the last time you actually checked your cup?

Not your calendar. Not your bank account. Not everyone else’s needs. Your cup.

In this episode of Did She Just Say That, we’re taking a break from the heavy conversations and talking about the little things that are filling us up right now. From podcasts, music, shows, coffee, skincare, snacks, and products we’re loving to habits we’re creating, things making life easier, and the random little things that are making us smile—we’re sharing what’s bringing us joy in this season of life.

Because sometimes filling your cup looks like deep spiritual growth… and sometimes it looks like a really good cup of coffee and magnesium spray. 

We’re also putting each other on the spot with one important question: What do you think is filling the other person’s cup right now?

So grab your coffee, your favorite snack, and come hang out with us.

And when the episode ends, we want to know:

Sis, what’s filling YOUR cup right now?

Love, 

Ash and Chess

Sometimes the walls we build are the very things that once kept us safe. But what if the walls protecting your heart are also keeping you from the life and the relationships you actually want? 

In this episode, we’re getting real about the walls we build around ourselves and asking the uncomfortable question: Are you protecting yourself… or preventing yourself from living? 

We’re talking about trust, fear, disappointment, and why we sometimes choose isolation over vulnerability—not just in romantic relationships, but with family, friendships, and even our faith. 

We unpack the difference between healthy boundaries and unhealthy walls, how protection can quietly become isolation, and the small signs that we may be shutting people out without realizing it.

Because healing doesn’t always mean tearing every wall down.
Sometimes, it means removing one brick at a time.

Brick by brick. 🧱                                   
Boundary by boundary.                                 
Step by step. 🚶‍♀️
Maybe you don’t have to let everyone in.

Maybe you just have to stop locking everyone out. 🗝️

Pull up that chair, y'all. 🪑 

Love,

Ash & Chess 💛💛

Grace is one of those things we all hope to receive… but it’s often much harder to give.

In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what grace really is and what it isn’t. We share thoughts from friends and family on what grace means to them, then dive into the messy, beautiful reality of extending grace to others and ourselves.

We talk about:

● What grace actually looks like in everyday life.

● Why giving grace can sometimes be painful.

● How choosing grace means looking beyond the worst in people.

● The difference between grace and enabling.

● Why grace is never an excuse for unhealthy behavior.

● How shame and grace cannot thrive in the same space.

Whether you’re struggling to forgive someone, carrying shame from your past, or trying to find the balance between healthy boundaries and compassion, this conversation is for you.

Because everyone wants grace… until it’s someone else’s turn to receive it.

Love,

Ash & Chess

What if the version of yourself you’ve been carrying around isn’t actually you?

In this episode, we’re getting honest about authenticity, image, and the pressure to fit into the boxes other people—or even we ourselves—have created. We unpack why so many of us feel like we have to edit our personalities, tone ourselves down, or become a certain “acceptable” version of ourselves to be loved, respected, or accepted.

We dive into labels, faith culture, and the misconception that following Jesus means becoming less of who you are instead of more. Ashley shares her own struggle with constantly monitoring what she says and presenting different versions of herself depending on who she’s around. Together, we ask the hard questions: What parts of your personality have you hidden? Are you living for authenticity or approval? And who decided you had to choose between being fun and being faithful?

The truth is, the right people don’t run from the real you—they lean in. There’s incredible freedom in taking off the mask and embracing the person God created you to be.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve been performing instead of living, this conversation is for you. Pull up your chair! 🪑 

Love,

Ash & Chess 💛💛

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Wait…how did that become my fault?”

Sometimes what feels personal, isn’t personal at all.

This week, we’re diving into one of the most relationship-changing topics we’ve ever discussed: projection. We unpack what it is, why we do it, how it quietly damages our relationships, and why it’s often easier to point a finger than to face what’s really happening inside of us.

But here’s the twist, we’re not just talking about the people who’ve projected onto us. We’re taking an honest look in the mirror and asking where we’ve done the same thing.

This conversation is equal parts eye-opening, convicting, and freeing. Because healing begins when we stop making other people carry the weight of wounds they didn’t create.

So grab your coffee, settle in, and let’s have the uncomfortable conversation that just might change the way you see yourself—and everyone around you.

As always, you have a seat at our table. 

Love, 

Ash & Chess

Have you ever looked up and realized you’re living the same day over and over again?
In this episode of Did She Just Say That?, we’re talking about what it really feels like to be stuck. Maybe you’re going through the motions, waiting for motivation to magically appear, repeating unhealthy habits, feeling disconnected from the people around you, or ending every day completely exhausted without knowing why. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 🤷🏻‍♀️

The truth is, many of us aren’t truly living—we’re surviving. 

Join Ashley and Chesson as they unpack the signs that you may be stuck in a rut, the patterns that keep us there, and the lies we tell ourselves about why we can’t move forward. Through honest conversation and personal experiences, they explore how burnout, fear, comfort zones, and routine can quietly steal our joy and purpose.
Most importantly, they share practical steps to help you break the cycle. 🔄 

If you’ve been feeling stuck, this conversation might be exactly the nudge you need.
Because your life was meant for more than repeat mode.

You will definitely want to pull your chair up for this one and join our table! 🪑 

Love, Ash & Chess 💛

What if the people we pass every single day are the ones who need to be seen the most?

In this episode, we’re talking about what it really looks like to live outward instead of inward. From the barista making your coffee to the cashier ringing up your groceries, the coworker everyone overlooks, or the elderly person sitting alone. We challenge ourselves to stop simply looking at people and start truly seeing them.

We discuss how easy it is to judge before we know someone’s story, why choosing to see the good in others can change our perspective, and how serving people with genuine love and intentionality often brings unexpected joy right back to us.

Not sure where to start? We talk about getting involved, asking better questions, learning from people who already serve well, and making intentional conversations a part of everyday life.

We wrap up the episode with a 7-Day Living Outward Challenge—simple, practical ways to shift your focus from ‘less me to more we.’
Because sometimes the smallest act of kindness becomes the biggest reminder that we’re all meant to carry one another.

Pull up a chair, join the conversation, and remember… you always have a seat at our table. 

Love,

Ash & Chess 💛💛

In this episode, we’re getting real about the battles we face behind the scenes—from comparison, self-worth, and physical appearance to relationships, purpose, and the pressure of who we think we’re supposed to be. We share the struggles we’re actively working through, the challenges we’re facing right now, and even some of the things people would never guess we’ve wrestled with. 🚎 

This conversation isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about the experience of struggling, the expectations we place on ourselves, and why giving ourselves grace can feel so difficult. We explore what it means to let go of roles, release perfection, and embrace the messy reality of being human.

Raw, honest, and deeply relatable, this episode is a reminder that you’re not the only one carrying what you carry—and there’s a good chance you’ll find a piece of your own story somewhere in ours.

Remember: you always have a seat at our table. 💛

Love,

Ash & Chess

Starting over isn’t easy—but sometimes it’s exactly what we need. ❤️‍🩹

In this episode, we discuss what it means to rebuild after divorce, heartbreak, job loss, financial setbacks, friendship breakups, motherhood shifts, mental health struggles, addiction, and life’s unexpected detours. We unpack the pressure of timeline culture, social media comparison, and the feeling that we’re somehow “behind.”

What if starting over isn’t failure—but redirection? ↪️

Join us as we talk about letting go of expectations, embracing small wins, building quietly, and finding the courage to begin again. Because your life isn’t over, you’re not ruined, and it’s never too late for a fresh start.

Grab and chair and join our table! 🪑 

Love, 

Ash & Chess