What if the version of yourself you’ve been carrying around isn’t actually you?

In this episode, we’re getting honest about authenticity, image, and the pressure to fit into the boxes other people—or even we ourselves—have created. We unpack why so many of us feel like we have to edit our personalities, tone ourselves down, or become a certain “acceptable” version of ourselves to be loved, respected, or accepted.

We dive into labels, faith culture, and the misconception that following Jesus means becoming less of who you are instead of more. Ashley shares her own struggle with constantly monitoring what she says and presenting different versions of herself depending on who she’s around. Together, we ask the hard questions: What parts of your personality have you hidden? Are you living for authenticity or approval? And who decided you had to choose between being fun and being faithful?

The truth is, the right people don’t run from the real you—they lean in. There’s incredible freedom in taking off the mask and embracing the person God created you to be.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve been performing instead of living, this conversation is for you. Pull up your chair! 🪑 

Love,

Ash & Chess 💛💛

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Wait…how did that become my fault?”

Sometimes what feels personal, isn’t personal at all.

This week, we’re diving into one of the most relationship-changing topics we’ve ever discussed: projection. We unpack what it is, why we do it, how it quietly damages our relationships, and why it’s often easier to point a finger than to face what’s really happening inside of us.

But here’s the twist, we’re not just talking about the people who’ve projected onto us. We’re taking an honest look in the mirror and asking where we’ve done the same thing.

This conversation is equal parts eye-opening, convicting, and freeing. Because healing begins when we stop making other people carry the weight of wounds they didn’t create.

So grab your coffee, settle in, and let’s have the uncomfortable conversation that just might change the way you see yourself—and everyone around you.

As always, you have a seat at our table. 

Love, 

Ash & Chess

Have you ever looked up and realized you’re living the same day over and over again?
In this episode of Did She Just Say That?, we’re talking about what it really feels like to be stuck. Maybe you’re going through the motions, waiting for motivation to magically appear, repeating unhealthy habits, feeling disconnected from the people around you, or ending every day completely exhausted without knowing why. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 🤷🏻‍♀️

The truth is, many of us aren’t truly living—we’re surviving. 

Join Ashley and Chesson as they unpack the signs that you may be stuck in a rut, the patterns that keep us there, and the lies we tell ourselves about why we can’t move forward. Through honest conversation and personal experiences, they explore how burnout, fear, comfort zones, and routine can quietly steal our joy and purpose.
Most importantly, they share practical steps to help you break the cycle. 🔄 

If you’ve been feeling stuck, this conversation might be exactly the nudge you need.
Because your life was meant for more than repeat mode.

You will definitely want to pull your chair up for this one and join our table! 🪑 

Love, Ash & Chess 💛

What if the people we pass every single day are the ones who need to be seen the most?

In this episode, we’re talking about what it really looks like to live outward instead of inward. From the barista making your coffee to the cashier ringing up your groceries, the coworker everyone overlooks, or the elderly person sitting alone. We challenge ourselves to stop simply looking at people and start truly seeing them.

We discuss how easy it is to judge before we know someone’s story, why choosing to see the good in others can change our perspective, and how serving people with genuine love and intentionality often brings unexpected joy right back to us.

Not sure where to start? We talk about getting involved, asking better questions, learning from people who already serve well, and making intentional conversations a part of everyday life.

We wrap up the episode with a 7-Day Living Outward Challenge—simple, practical ways to shift your focus from ‘less me to more we.’
Because sometimes the smallest act of kindness becomes the biggest reminder that we’re all meant to carry one another.

Pull up a chair, join the conversation, and remember… you always have a seat at our table. 

Love,

Ash & Chess 💛💛

In this episode, we’re getting real about the battles we face behind the scenes—from comparison, self-worth, and physical appearance to relationships, purpose, and the pressure of who we think we’re supposed to be. We share the struggles we’re actively working through, the challenges we’re facing right now, and even some of the things people would never guess we’ve wrestled with. 🚎 

This conversation isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about the experience of struggling, the expectations we place on ourselves, and why giving ourselves grace can feel so difficult. We explore what it means to let go of roles, release perfection, and embrace the messy reality of being human.

Raw, honest, and deeply relatable, this episode is a reminder that you’re not the only one carrying what you carry—and there’s a good chance you’ll find a piece of your own story somewhere in ours.

Remember: you always have a seat at our table. 💛

Love,

Ash & Chess

Starting over isn’t easy—but sometimes it’s exactly what we need. ❤️‍🩹

In this episode, we discuss what it means to rebuild after divorce, heartbreak, job loss, financial setbacks, friendship breakups, motherhood shifts, mental health struggles, addiction, and life’s unexpected detours. We unpack the pressure of timeline culture, social media comparison, and the feeling that we’re somehow “behind.”

What if starting over isn’t failure—but redirection? ↪️

Join us as we talk about letting go of expectations, embracing small wins, building quietly, and finding the courage to begin again. Because your life isn’t over, you’re not ruined, and it’s never too late for a fresh start.

Grab and chair and join our table! 🪑 

Love, 

Ash & Chess

Father’s Day can bring gratitude, celebration, grief, memories, and sometimes all of those emotions at once.
In this week’s episode, The First Man We Loved, we’re having an honest conversation about the men who shaped our lives long before we knew how much they would impact us. Ashley shares what it’s been like navigating life after losing her dad just a few years ago, while Chess reflects on losing her father as a young child and the lasting effects of growing up without him.
We also asked dads a simple question: “What’s the perfect Father’s Day gift?” Their answers surprised us. Not one dad mentioned expensive gifts or gadgets. Instead, they talked about quality time, feeling appreciated, being recognized for what they do, and receiving something as simple as a handwritten letter from their children.
This conversation reminded us that fathers need encouragement too. They want to feel seen, valued, loved, and affirmed.
Whether you’re celebrating your dad, missing him, honoring a father figure, or raising children alongside a great dad, pull up a seat and join us for a heartfelt conversation about the first man we loved.

Love,

Ash & Chess

In a world where friendships can feel surface-level, temporary, or transactional, we're pulling back the curtain on what genuine friendship has looked like in our lives.

In this episode, we dive deep into the kind of friendship that doesn't hide the messy parts, keeps showing up through every season, gives grace when life gets hard, celebrates wins without jealousy, and provides a safe place to be fully known. We talk about the highs, the heartbreaks, the healing, the laughter, and all the life we've walked through side by side.

We also explore why some people have never experienced true friendship, the barriers that can keep us from authentic connection, and why community is so important for growth, healing, and living out our faith. Through it all, we share how pursuing Jesus together has strengthened our friendship and shaped who we are.

And because no episode about our friendship would be complete without some fun, we wrap things up with a game full of questions, inside jokes, favorite memories, and all the little things that make our friendship what it is.

Whether you've found your person or you're still searching for meaningful community, this conversation is for you.

As always, remember—you always have a seat at our table! 
Love, 

Ash & Chess

Some family patterns don’t start with us… but they can end with us. 🫶🏼

In this episode, we’re diving into generational curses, unhealthy family patterns, and the learned behaviors many of us carry without even realizing it. From toxic communication and emotional suppression to relationship struggles, survival-mode coping mechanisms, and repeating cycles we swore we’d never become—we’re unpacking how these patterns get passed down from generation to generation.

We share real-life examples, honest conversations, and the importance of acknowledgment as the first step toward healing. Because you can’t change what you refuse to recognize. Our hope is that this episode helps listeners identify the cycles they may have inherited, understand where they come from, and begin the work of breaking them so they aren’t passed on to future generations.

Healing may start with awareness—but it changes everything after that. ❤️‍🩹 

Bring a seat and join our table for this one.  

Ash & Chess 💛💛

No names were used in this episode… but if you feel exposed, that’s between you and God.

This week we’re talking breakups—the heartbreak, the healing, and the absolutely unhinged things people do after it ends.

Why do we stay too long? Why do red flags start looking normal when we love someone? Why are we checking their socials while saying we’re “so at peace”?

We get into blocking, stalking, breakup playlists, journaling their worst traits, and pretending a haircut fixed everything.

Ash shares a deeply personal story about a proposal ending by text and how it changed the course of her future. Chess talks about being the one who has to walk away, even when love is still there, and finding closure without needing it from them.

We also unpack the truth that sometimes people don’t leave because they stopped loving you… they leave because they got tired of asking for what should’ve come naturally.

And yes, we end with a rapid-fire breakup game that tells you way too much about us.

If you’re healing, hurting, nosy, or one breakup away from cutting bangs… pull up a chair, because you always have a seat at our table. 

Love,

Ash & Chess