Can you be your authentic self in a relationship and allow your partner to do the same—while accepting the differences? This concept is called differentiation, and it’s very important in relationships because it affects a lot of relational elements. For this week’s podcast, I welcome back Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. to discuss these concepts and share her wisdom gathered over years of working with couples. Listen to the episode... I think it’ll resonate with you.    Useful Links:   https://www.relationshipschool.com/training http://relationshipschool.com/mrc https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/  

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Ellen Boeder interviews Johannah Reimer to find out how women can help teen girls. They discuss the unique problems that teen girls face today, the evolutionary mismatch between the environments we evolved in and modern life, the importance of doing hard things and Johannah’s Girls Group Facilitator Training, “Pathways to Womanhood”which is about guiding and supporting girls on their journey to womanhood. Johannah is a soulcentric educator, ceremonialist, teen mentor, and an artist of many trades. Trained as a Waldorf teacher, Johannah has been working with children of all ages for over 20 years and holds a particular passion for tweens/teens striving to meet their developmental needs for mentorship and initiation in a culture that has forgotten how to do so. An apprentice of visionaries: Sage Hamilton and Melissa Michaels of SOMA Source, Johannah has worked for many years as a Waldorf teacher under the guidance of her elder Sage, and as an embodied leader for international youth in movement based Rites of Passage with Golden Bridge & Golden Girls Global. Timestamps:  5:33 - Johannah's path to becoming an educator 13:19 - Why create girls' groups 26:56 - Evolutionary mismatch 30:20 - The value of doing hard things 34:22 - Becoming an entrepreneur 37:55 - What will people take from the training? 43:26 - Advice for teenage girls  Links:  Free Workshop on Becoming a Village Auntie Pathways to Womanhood ~ Girls Group Facilitator Training Johannah Reimer's Instagram My Relationship Coach (MRC) Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven’t been screened for cancer, now is the time.  Timestamps:  2:16 - Jayson's experience 6:34 - Causes of cancer 9:01 - Letting people's care in 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40  Links:  Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook   

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IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:  To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self The true characteristics of a long-term partnership How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence  There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow. And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave: Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with. However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points. Timestamps:  1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships? 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself 9:49 - Annie's story 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood 30:34 - When to leave   Links:  Annie Lalla – Love Coach for Singles & Couples Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen. SHOWNOTES  What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30] How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35] What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00] The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00] How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30] The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30] What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00] Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00] What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30] How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00] The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00]  Links:  My Relationship Coach (MRC) Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Addiction Expert, Speaker and Best-selling Author Dr. Gabor Maté (drgabormate.com) Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process.  Timestamps:  2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples   Links:  The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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