In this episode of Essential Pause, Carey Borkoski explores the idea of discomfort stamina—the ability to stay present and grounded during moments of struggle or uncertainty. Drawing on her experience running a 10-mile race, she shares how shifting from distraction to presence helped her endure discomfort step by step. Carey connects this lesson to the “ugly stage” common in art, work, parenting, and personal growth—reminding us that messiness often precedes learning and possibility.

She highlights the paradox of discomfort: though challenging, it can drive growth—whether in building muscle, setting boundaries in relationships, or navigating financial discipline. Building discomfort stamina, she explains, involves acknowledging discomfort, clarifying values, cultivating flexibility, practicing self-compassion, and seeking support.

Ultimately, Carey emphasizes that discomfort stamina isn’t about gritting your teeth but about pausing, noticing, and staying present—learning that discomfort doesn’t undo us, and often, it’s where transformation begins.