In this powerful and raw conversation, Chelsea sits down with Fred Van Riper, a Fair Play facilitator and men’s relationship coach, to explore the invisible forces shaping modern partnerships. Together, they dive deep into the impact of patriarchy, gendered expectations, and the emotional labor that often goes unrecognized in relationships.

They explore how societal norms influence both men and women, why emotional labor and vulnerability are often avoided in conversation, and what true partnership requires for growth and equality. From reframing the role of provider to dismantling shame and stepping into emotional ownership, Fred and Chelsea share real, actionable steps toward building a more equitable, empowered relationship.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in traditional roles or unsure how to create a truly balanced partnership, this episode is for you.

Topics Covered:

• Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness

• The hidden cost of patriarchy for both men and women

• How men can lead the charge in dismantling toxic societal norms

• The blame-shame loop and its impact on relationships

• How to build emotional safety and community in your partnership

Key Takeaway:
This episode isn’t about placing blame; it’s about taking responsibility. We don’t need perfect solutions, but we do need committed partners who are ready to do the inner and relational work to create real change.

Bonus Resource:
Looking to break free from gendered expectations in your own relationship? Download my Relationship Communication Scripts to help you have more honest, effective conversations around tough topics like emotional labor and vulnerability.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts

Connect with Fred:
Fred’s coaching for high-achieving men: Transform Your Life | Seat at the Table

Connect with Chelsea:
Chelsea Skaggs Coaching: www.postpartumtogether.com/services