Divorce Curious

On this throwback episode from Shiny Things with Lisa Mitchell, I have not one, but two dating and relationships experts who happen to be married to each other after meeting on Match.com. Coaches Mark & Michaela Logue have an awesome story about how they met, how they got to where they are now, and how they are helping other people find love and healthy relationships in the digital dating space. They spend a lot of time unpacking the process of preparing yourself before you even post a profile and how to be intentional about owning what you really want from the very beginning. 

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From the Archives of Lisa Mitchell's previous podcast: "Shiny Things with Lisa Mitchell":

Dating and forming relationships can seem like a complete mystery. But there is a science behind it and by understanding what the science tells us, we can better understand what to expect and more importantly, how to act in a way that moves us closer to our desired outcomes. On this episode Duana C. Welch PhD, author of the book Love Factually and founder of the blog LoveScience breaks down what the science tells us to help us be smarter and more clued in when dating and entering into a relationship. 

If you're over 50 and ready to find lasting love without settling, Duana offers free, research-based relationship training at LoveScienceMedia.com. You can also learn about working with her personally and follow her on Facebook and Instagram for more relationship science and advice.

You can find Dr. Welch in the following places:

Website: https://www.lovesciencemedia.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LoveFactuallyAuthor
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duana_welch/

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Two excellent communicators. Zero good dates. What is happening out there?

In the finale of this series, Lisa and Heather DeSiena bring the energy way up — because we're talking modern dating, and honestly, it's a lot. These are two women who are accomplished, self-aware, genuinely curious about other humans, and somehow still eating dinner alone. If that's relatable to you, pull up a chair.

In this episode:

• The false abundance mindset — why infinite swiping has trained everyone to never actually invest in anyone in front of them
• The upgrade trap: why "the next one might be better" is keeping everybody perpetually single and perpetually disappointed
• Why nobody asks questions anymore (and why a man who can hold a real conversation in real time is apparently a rare and endangered species)
• Sharp edges vs. soft energy — how building a career in male-dominated spaces quietly rewires how you show up on a first date
• "My standards are too high" — said by people whose marriages Lisa and Heather would absolutely not want
• A live, unscripted matchmaking pitch that you genuinely need to hear to believe

Fair warning: this episode gets a little silly toward the end. There is a Divorce Curious dating game show concept floated, referrals are solicited, and Lisa volunteers to personally vet all candidates. We are not joking. Drop your nominations in the comments.

This is the final episode of the three-part Heather DeSiena series — if you haven't listened to Parts 1 and 2 yet, go back. They're worth it.

And if this whole series has you doing some honest reflecting on your own relationship, grab Lisa's free Evaluate Your Relationship workbook at lisamitchell.biz/podcast. Good questions, zero judgment.

Connect with Heather: Instagram: @heatherdesciena LinkedIn: Heather DeSiena

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You did everything right. You communicated. You tried. You listened to your gut. And it still ended.

This week Lisa and Heather DeSiena get into the part nobody really talks about — what happens when a relationship ends not because of some dramatic blow-up, but because you were brave enough to be honest with yourself. Heather opens up about being engaged twice in her thirties, walking away from a wedding with eight weeks to go, and the particular kind of loneliness that comes when the life you planned just... doesn't happen that way.

In this episode:

• The sunk cost trap — why "we've invested so much time" is the worst reason to stay
• What Heather's corporate negotiation career taught her about walking away from a bad deal (yes, even at the altar)
• The silent treatment: petty power move or nervous system self-preservation? (Spoiler: Lisa and Heather have both done it, and neither is judging you)
• Why the people you expect to show up when things fall apart are often the first ones to go quiet
• "No deal is better than a bad deal" — and why this might be the most important relationship advice nobody gives you

This one gets real. Like, really real. Both Lisa and Heather show up as full humans in this conversation, which is exactly what makes it worth your hour.

Part 3 is coming — and we're getting into modern dating, the app fatigue spiral, and a live matchmaking situation that you genuinely do not want to miss.

If this episode has you doing some honest reflecting, grab Lisa's free Evaluate Your Relationship workbook at lisamitchell.biz/podcast. No judgment. Just good questions.

Connect with Heather: 

https://www.heatherdesiena.com

https://www.instagram.com/heatherdesiena

https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdesiena

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What if the same skills that close a seven-figure deal could also save you from your next kitchen table meltdown? Spoiler: they absolutely can — and this week's guest is living proof.

Lisa sits down with Heather DeSiena — former news anchor, corporate negotiator, keynote speaker, and (plot twist) seminary master's degree holder — to talk about what she calls heart-level negotiation. Turns out, whether you're closing a business deal or trying to have a hard conversation with your partner without it going completely sideways, you're working with the exact same stuff: people, emotions, and the desperate hope that someone in the room stays regulated.

In this episode:

• Why "soft skills" is a terrible term — and why these are actually the most important skills you have
• How to enter a hard conversation with intention instead of just feelings and vibes
• What somatic awareness has to do with your next argument (your body knows before your brain does)
• The pattern interruption trick that can stop a scripted fight before it even starts
• Why the more emotionally aware partner carries extra responsibility — unfair as that is

Heather is one of those guests who makes you feel like you should be taking notes, and also like it's completely okay that you've been doing some of this wrong. We've all been doing some of this wrong.

This is Part 1 of a 3-part series — and yes, it gets considerably more personal from here.

If this episode has you doing a little reflecting on your own relationship, the Evaluate Your Relationship workbook is a great place to start. Grab it at lisamitchell.biz/podcast.

Connect with Heather: 

https://www.heatherdesiena.com

https://www.instagram.com/heatherdesiena

https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdesiena

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If you've ever thought "is this really as good as it gets?," this episode is your answer. Lisa sits down with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, whose no-judgment social media content has been stopping people mid-scroll and mid-spiral for years. Melissa brings the kind of real, digestible wisdom that makes you feel like she was literally sitting in your living room for your last argument. From the pursuer-withdrawer cycle to why healthy couples do fight, to what actually happens when you outgrow each other — this one hits.

In This Episode You'll Hear:

• "Love isn't luck, it's a skill" — what that actually means and why the apps are working against us
• The 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise — the simplest and most powerful filter for dating clarity
• The pursuer-withdrawer cycle explained — why you always seem to marry your opposite and what to do about it
• Your nervous system is running your relationship — what attachment style has to do with how you fight
• Why repair doesn't happen — and the exact reason couples wait too long to fix what's broken
• The slow emotional drift — why "nothing's really wrong" can still be a completely valid reason to be unhappy
• Outgrowing your partner — is it real, is it fair, and what do you actually do with it?

Key Takeaways & Actionable Insights

1. Get clear before you get out there. Before downloading the app or gussying up for the grocery store, ask yourself: what do I actually want? 
2. Try the 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise. Boil your relationship non-negotiables down to just six things. 
3. Know your conflict style. Are you the one who needs to talk about it right now (pursuer) or the one who needs to step away until things cool down (withdrawer)?
4. Regulate before you communicate. When you feel the script starting, your body will tell you first — heart racing, voice rising, shoulders up around your ears. That's your cue. 
5. Repair is not optional. Sweeping it under the rug doesn't end the fight — it just adds it to the pile you'll trip over next time. Healthy couples argue and repair. Both parts matter.
6. Wanting more is not selfish. Wanting to feel desired, connected, and seen in your relationship is not a character flaw. It's a human need. Stop apologizing for having it.

Connect with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT 🌐 Practice: embracingjoy.com (NY, NJ & CT clients) 📚 Courses + Free Downloads: embracingjoyconsulting.com 📸 Instagram: @embracingjoypsychotherapy 🎵 TikTok: @embracingjoynyc ▶️ YouTube: Embracing Joy

Connect with Lisa Mitchell 🌐 Website: lisamitchell.biz 📲 Everywhere: @divorcecurioushelp 💡 Download: Grab the Evaluate Your Marriage Workbook at lisamitchell.biz 

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What if everything you thought a relationship was supposed to look like was just... a story someone else wrote for you? Lisa sits down with the refreshingly honest Melissa McClure — twice-divorced, bisexual, polyamorous, burlesque performer, serial entrepreneur, and San Diego-based truth-teller — for a conversation that will challenge everything you assumed about love, loyalty, jealousy, and how "family" can look different than you might be used to. 

Whether you're divorce-curious, newly single, or just quietly wondering if there's more out there for you — this one's for you.

In This Episode You'll Hear:

• The "light bulb moment" that changed everything — how Melissa found her truth and what she did next
• A glossary you didn't know you needed — ENM, polyamory vs. open relationships, kitchen table polyamory, parallel polyamory, metas, and more
• The #1 red flag on dating apps that tells you someone is just cheating (hint: three words)
• Why polyamory doesn't break marriages — it just reveals the cracks that were already there
• Why intentional "relationship check-ins" might be the most underrated tool in any relationship, monogamous or not
• Leveling up in midlife — why women in perimenopause are outgrowing their marriages, and what to do with that

Key Takeaways & Actionable Insights

1. Know your terms before you act. If you're considering opening your relationship, do the research first. Melissa recommends books and podcasts specifically on ethical non-monogamy — going in without education is how you end up with five partners and a struggling business.
2. Jealousy is data, not a verdict. Instead of weaponizing jealousy, try using it as a mirror. Ask yourself: what need is going unmet right now? Then use your words.
3. Run from "don't ask, don't tell." If someone on a dating app claims to be in an open relationship but uses this phrase — that's not ethical non-monogamy. That's cheating with extra steps.
4. Set the rules of engagement — then revisit them. Every relationship, no matter the structure, benefits from intentional check-ins. When did you last ask your partner (or yourself): is this still working?
5. Opening a struggling marriage won't save it. A Hail Mary pass into polyamory typically accelerates the breakdown, not the healing. The relationship foundation has to be solid first.

Connect with Melissa McClure Instagram: @melissamcclure.co 🎵 TikTok: @meldell Melissa shares openly about perimenopause, divorce, polyamory, and life design

Connect with Lisa Mitchell Website: lisamitchell.biz 📲 Everywhere: @divorcecurioushelp 💡 Download The "Evaluate Your Marriage" Workbook: Lisa's self-paced relationship evaluation guide is now live on her website — a great starting point if today's episode gave you things to think about.

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#DivorceСurious #Polyamory #EthicalNonMonogamy #Perimenopause #Divorce #MidlifeWomen #OpenRelationship #SoloLiving #RelationshipAdvice #LivingYourTruth

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In Part 2 of Lisa’s conversation with communication strategist Rachel Randolph, the focus shifts from theory to application.

This episode is all about reclaiming your voice — especially when you feel stuck waiting for someone else to change, apologize, or participate.

Rachel breaks down a powerful mindset shift:

Moving from

To

The conversation explores:

• How to stop outsourcing your peace to someone else’s behavior
• Why self-compassion is the first step in real change
• How small, everyday moments reveal your deeper communication patterns
• The hidden cost of self-abandonment in relationships
• Why owning your voice doesn’t make you “difficult” — it makes you self-led

They also discuss the deeper impact of healing foundational relationship wounds and how that work transforms friendships, romantic relationships, and even professional dynamics.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, silenced, or hesitant to speak up — especially in the context of marriage or relationship decisions — this episode offers a grounded, practical framework to help you take your next right step.

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There's no lack of triggering topics and conversations happening all around you everyday. And while you can't always control what's coming at you, you can have more control over how you respond to those triggers and how you communicate during those situations. 

In part 1 of this conversations of the Divorce Curious Podcast, Lisa talks with communications expert Rachel Randolph, founder of the SPEC method, about how our internal experience impacts the way we communicate. 

Rachel shares how her family dynamics during her childhood left an imprint on how she views communications, how she's approached managing through the difficult conversations with family members, and how that has led her to develop an effective framework that she now shares with others to empower them to have more control over their inner dialogue and their external communication.  

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In this episode of the Divorce Curious Podcast, host Lisa Mitchell and functional medicine expert Sarah Scott-Weaver MSN, FNP-C, IFMPC, HN-BC dive into some seriously life-changing topics for anyone who is going through changes in their health and relationships. They're chatting about how functional medicine and living in a supportive community can totally transform your health journey, especially if you're dealing with stress and big life changes. Trust me, you don't want to miss this!

Takeaways

• Functional medicine is like a holistic health makeover.
• Stress hormones can mess with your mojo, but there's hope!
• Find a hormone-savvy healthcare provider who gets to the root of things.
• Living intentionally in a community can be your emotional safety net.
• Women are rethinking life choices during health transitions.
• Your social life is just as important as your physical health.
• Community living can be more romantic and supportive than you think.
• Women are craving spaces that feel safe and share the load, and many are finding that through platonic shared living arrangements 

About Sarah Scott-Weaver:

Sarah Scott-Weaver is a functional medicine nurse practitioner who understands firsthand how deeply life transitions—like divorce—can impact a woman’s body, mind, and sense of self. She works with women in midlife who are ready to stop surviving and start caring for themselves more deeply. Through a holistic, compassionate approach, Sarah helps women support their hormones, thyroid, gut, and mental health while embracing root-cause self-care and building a life that truly feels aligned. 

 You can connect with Sarah and explore her work through her Linktree at https://linktr.ee/entouragefunctionalmedicine. Inside her free Holistic Health Hub, she shares guides, videos, and educational resources on gut health, thyroid health, hormones, and mental well-being. You’ll also find links to her social media and the option to book a complimentary one-on-one call to discuss your health goals and what working together could look like.  

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