This episode of Undoing We explores the often-overlooked world of divorce decision making, focusing on why reaching clarity in this life-changing process is so difficult yet so important. Host Mardi Winder-Adams is joined by Mike Fink, who brings warmth and expertise to a discussion about the emotional and psychological hurdles that slow the decision to stay or leave a marriage. Mike explains that indecision during divorce is more than just uncertainty. It can affect productivity, self-esteem, and both mental and physical health, particularly for women who are already in transition. Tune in to learn why the primal parts of our brain are built to keep us in familiar, even if uncomfortable, situations, making divorce decision making an uphill battle against our own instincts.

Mike introduces his practical system for gaining clarity, using tools like value mapping to help people clearly identify and rank their most important needs in a relationship. Through determining essential values, he offers a way for those facing divorce to assess whether a partnership is truly sustainable in the long term. 

The episode offers strategies that are easy to picture and apply, helping you go beyond talk therapy to connect with their deeper instincts. With real stories and step-by-step advice, this conversation is an invitation for anyone struggling with divorce decision making to move forward with confidence, aligning choices with what matters most and ultimately finding a sense of peace. 

About the Guest Mike Fink is a clarity and decision-making expert, coach, and innovator. With a Master of Science in Psychology from Yale, he helps women considering divorce who are stuck in indecision, fearing they’ll make a mistake they’ll regret. During the first part of his career in personal development, spanning more than two decades, 

Mike’s programs helped more than 110,000 people across 157 countries achieve life-changing goals. Following a painful turning point, he created The Decoding Grid™, a revolutionary process for high-stakes decision-making. Since 2021, he has dedicated himself to helping women get absolute Clarity & Certainty about their marriage in 30 days or less. Mike is the author of Divorce Decision Decoded: The Revolutionary Guide for Women to Get Clarity & Certainty in 30 Days. Originally from Europe, he has lived in five countries, including the U.S., before settling in Canada. His English accent, a unique blend, is often perceived as French. 

To get Mike’s gift: https://www.getabsoluteclarity.com/

To connect with Mike: Website: https://www.getabsoluteclarity.com/ 

More about Mardi: Mardi Winder-Adams is a certified divorce transition and high-conflict divorce coach, with experience as a domestic violence client advocate and behavioral consultant for schools. She is a credentialed mediator with over 30 years of experience in helping people navigate conflict, manage the challenges of divorce, and focus on creating positive transitions, even at very stressful times in life. 

Mardi is the best-selling author of From I Do to I’m Done and The Other Side of Divorce. She speaks internationally on conflict resolution, divorce, communication, and developing emotional intelligence and resilience. 

Connect with Mardi: Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/