Spending Valentine’s Day alone might not be your number one choice. However, spending the day alone is a lot better than staying in a bad marriage. Though your first year as a divorced person may be difficult, spending the holiday alone doesn’t have to be an emotionally devastating event. You can be your own Valentine this year, and you can make it a day all about self-care and relaxation. 

Do not feel guilty about self-care when being your own valentine! Here are some tips:

1. Do something for your mental health: Wherever you are in the divorce process, seeking help from a mental health professional should be a priority. Therapy does wonders to help you cope and move forward. 
2. Do something for your physical health: Plan ahead! Get a massage, take a walk, join a gym class.
3. Do something for your emotional health: Whatever it is that you do to spoil yourself, make sure it’s something totally just for you. Remember, there are no rules about who can be your Valentine. So, if you’re your own Valentine this year, the ball is 100% in your court and you are fully responsible for making this day awesome and all about you.
4. Spend time with your loved ones!