Welcome back to No Filter Femme, the podcast where we have real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. In this episode, Melia and Kelli Mason are joined by four incredible guests (follow them on Instagram): Lavie (@mslavie), Pamela (@pamelarxhaird.o.c), Shenaye (@shenayecreativetouch), and Tomeka (@tomekajames). Together, they continue the powerful conversation on the theme, “Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?” The discussion explores the importance of setting healthy boundaries, reclaiming our narratives, and fully embracing the good things that come our way, especially as black women over 40.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00 - 00:03:30] Introduction

• Melia and Kelli welcome the audience and introduce the guests: Lavie, Pamela, Shenaye, and Tomeka.

[00:03:31 - 00:12:00] Opening Conversations on Boundaries

• The panel begins discussing how the understanding of boundaries evolves over time.
• Pamela shares her experience of learning to set boundaries in her 50s, particularly in her marriage.

[00:12:01 - 00:22:30] Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

• Lavie opens up about how being a middle child shaped her sense of self-worth and led to a lack of boundaries.
• The impact of societal and familial expectations on how black women view themselves.

[00:22:31 - 00:34:00] Sexual Liberation and Self-Discovery

• The conversation shifts to the importance of sexual satisfaction in relationships.
• Tomeka shares how detaching sex from love helped her regain control over her body and choices.

[00:34:01 - 00:47:00] Navigating Love and Relationships in Your 40s + No Filter Flash Q&A Round

• Shenaye discusses her journey through marriage and divorce, and how she rediscovered herself in her 40s.
• The panel discusses the importance of identifying what they want in relationships and not settling for less.
• No Filter Flash Q&A Round:
  • The guests participate in a fun, rapid-fire Q&A session, where they must answer spontaneous questions about their personal experiences and thoughts on love, life, and self-discovery.

[00:47:01 - 01:00:00] Healing and Reclaiming Your Narrative

• Lavie talks about how hypnosis helped her release trauma and reclaim her narrative.
• Shenaye reflects on her own healing journey and how setting boundaries has allowed her to grow.

[01:00:01 - 01:04:25] Closing Thoughts: Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?

• The panel reflects on how their experiences have shaped their understanding of what it means to deserve good things.
• Melia and Kelli wrap up with a call to action for black women to take control of their narratives, set boundaries, and embrace the good things they deserve.

Episode Closing:

Thank you for joining us for Part 2 of this powerful conversation on No Filter Femme. We hope that the stories shared today have inspired you to reflect on your own journey, your value, and the boundaries you set. Remember, as black women, we are worthy of good things—love, success, happiness—and it’s time we claim them unapologetically.

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