Picture this: You’re at a party, and everyone seems to be dodging conversations with you. Pretty soon, you’re asking yourself, “What, do I smell or something?”

Okay, so maybe you’re not at a party, but sometimes it can feel like your teen never wants to talk. Chances are, though, it’s not hygiene that’s driving him away.

The question you really should be asking is, “How am I coming across?” Too many times, what parents consider to be heartfelt wisdom, teens interpret as relentless judgment. The intentions are good, but the delivery just keeps missing the mark.

If you notice your teen shutting down during conversations with you, ask for his honest answer: “How do I come across to you?” What he says might provide the insight you need to start developing meaningful connection with him.

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