This message explores the difference between being 'Christian nice' and experiencing true transformation in Christ. Discover what Paul means in Ephesians 4 when he warns against 'futile thinking' - acknowledging God but living in ways that don't align with Scripture. Learn why Christianity isn't about behavior modification but heart transformation, and why our sinful nature doesn't automatically disappear when we accept Christ. The message outlines a practical four-step process for real change: catch negative thoughts, confess them to God, claim the Holy Spirit's power, and command your mind to think differently. Understand why community is essential for spiritual growth and how to handle the challenge of forgiveness, especially when dealing with church trauma or deep personal hurts.