On this episode Leah talks through a situation that happened within her family that illustrates some of the principles that guides this style of parenting. They talk through the difference between shame and guilt, and the importance as a parent to recognize when our responses to our kids can lead to shame, which is incredibly damaging to them.

Much of the time, when we are incredibly angry with our kids or struggling to manage our own emotions, it is our own "stuff" coming up and about something bigger than our kids' behavior. Reacting during those moments limits our ability to teach, train, explain,  and support our kids into better interactions and behaviors.

These topics lead into a conversation about their own childhood, messages they received, and how those messages show up in their adult lives. The messages we get in childhood, about how we are 'good,' stay in relationship with people, keeps me safe, etc. these become engrained in how we interact with others and the world and what we think about ourselves. Understanding some of this information can be informed by the Enneagram, which is designed to help identify those messages and how they show up in adulthood.

Leah and Beka also discuss the importance of being honest with our kids regarding situations that are going on, using appropriate language, making sure our kids have the correct definition of the words we use, etc. These conversations can lay the groundwork for more serious conversations as our kids grow up!

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