I love the "It's Personal" book by Virginia Ward, Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy. You might find it as helpful as I have. When it comes to getting personal, this next question requires so much trust. In fact, chances are you're only going to have one kid out of a group that trusts you with this one. Here it is: do you know what I've done? "No one needs to be known by everyone, but everyone needs to be known by someone."