we’ve all heard it: you have to fully love yourself before you can love someone else.

but… do you though?

in this episode, i talk through why humans are always in relationship (even when we pretend we’re “working on ourselves”), why connection isn’t something you earn after becoming magically complete, and how depriving ourselves of love might actually do the opposite of what we think it does.

i wonder out loud whether we sometimes learn how to love ourselves *through* other people, and if closing ourselves off in the name of self-growth might be a slightly dangerous game.

this isn’t anti–self love.

it’s just me questioning whether becoming whole was ever meant to be a solo project.