If, despite being hurt, abused, victimized, abandoned, etc., you find a way to release your resentment, your anger, your harsh feelings towards the person who hurt you, and practice this repeatedly as the negative thoughts return to your mind, you will train your mind to let go of the pain and your wounds will heal. If you insist on hanging onto thoughts of victimhood, this will neutralize your efforts to heal. The past is gone. Give it no power. Love as much as you can wherever you are. Let go of judgments and attack thoughts as well.