Is unconditional love in relationships supposed to mean accepting hurtful behavior?

What happens when someone is hot and cold in a relationship—leaving you emotionally drained, confused, and full of self-blame? Where is the line between loving deeply and staying in a dynamic that slowly erodes your sense of self?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who wonders whether unconditional love in relationships means remaining in a partnership that feels inconsistent, painful, and emotionally unsafe.

Angela explores:

• Why hot-and-cold relationship dynamics can feel addictive and destabilizing

• How unconditional love differs from unconditional relationships

• Why boundaries in relationships are essential for love that feels safe, steady, and mutual

• How self-blame develops in confusing or toxic dynamics—and how to begin releasing it

• What real reciprocity looks like, and why it matters for long-term connection

If you're questioning whether staying is an act of love—or recognizing that a relationship leaves you doubting yourself—this episode offers clarity, compassion, and grounded relationship guidance for navigating confusing or painful dynamics.

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