You ever date a guy who was just set in his ways? You ever wish you could change a man and help him do the work to reach his potential? Go to therapy. Take a self-help class. Write in a journal. Meditate. Join you on your spiritual journey so you can do it together. But if you’re still single, I would like to gently point out that perhaps finding another growth-oriented man isn’t as important as you think it is. In fact, your adherence to dating a man who lives life much like you may be the biggest obstacle you have to finding lasting love.