As Bijou shared, you can learn more about how to help women and children in Congo on the website Moseka Action Project.

You can find Bijou on Instagram at Viuongo Seasoning and Moseka Action Project.

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Rechelle

While Unabashed You started for women, it became clear men are benefiting from the content. So, we've decided to refresh the brand a bit. You will still see the pair with the teal background and the name Unabashed You stays the same. Instead of women talking about stuff -- because that is no longer accurate -- we've moved to conversations to become who you already are. On the website it goes on to say be who you are without apology as you are one of a kind without equal. These conversations will help you think, celebrate who you are, and move you in some way. So, listen, read, and be inspired. And today I say thanks for joining us. Bijou -- boy do I love saying her name -- Bijou is our Insta summer guest this week. I'm still marveling at the woman she is humble yet accomplished, creative with intention, and generous while making it look effortless. 00:01:05 Honestly, that is just the beginning. In addition to loving her large family, she's found a way to give back to her country of origin. It is inspiring to say the least. 

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Bijou is our Instant summer guest this week. We had a challenging time scheduling our conversation together, as she's in the midst of a move and needed some time to wrap things up. I couldn't wait to have her on; why do we feel so connected to people we haven't actually met. I find it fascinating. Here are a couple of things I know about Bijou. She's a foodie. She loves to cook. And is an artist and displaying what she has created. Each post on Instagram is a thing of beauty. We will get into that in a bit. Welcome to the show, Bijou. 

Bijou

Thank you, Rechelle, thank you for having me. Such an honor and pleasure for me to be here today and I really can’t wait to dig in. 

Rechelle

Me too. I’ve really been looking forward to connecting because I do find it very interesting that there are certain people you just feel like a kinship with or a connection with and I can't really, you know, fully explain it.  I just know that it's there. 

Bijou

Yes. I personally just believe it's God because one time I was listening to the podcast and my husband came in, I was like who is that? And I talked to him about you. He’s like how do you know her? I'm like on Instagram and he was like really? Yes, and like you say it's some connection, you just can't explain. But I believe it's just God's way of bringing people together.

Rechelle

Yeah, that's really beautiful. Is there anything you want the listeners to know before we get started? 

Bijou

Um maybe um the fact that I was born and raised in Congo. So I am originally from Congo, Born and raised in Congo. I Uh move out of my country when I was like 23 after college, I moved to France to do my master’s degree and in that time period my husband who was an American citizen.  He was born and raised here. But we met in high school in Congo because his parents came back, went to Congo to work for the government over there and we, we went to the same school. So, we met in high school and after high school he came back here and after college I went to France to do my master’s degree and when he learned and I was in France, he came to see me and he was like Bijou, I want you to be with me in America. And I was like, but I'm here to do my masters. And then, yeah, so we decided to get married and that's how I moved in America and, and now we have five beautiful kids. 

Rechelle

Oh my goodness. I kind of knew you had four, but I didn't realize it was five. five. That's wonderful. Well, what three words would you use to describe yourself?

Bijou

Three words to describe myself.  I'll say caring. Mm hmm. Uh, creative. Thank you. Just said I can't, I'm always bubbling up in my mind and finding ideas and stuff and uh, loyal. 

Rechelle

Oh gosh, those are so good. Yes, so good. Okay, are you familiar with this? It's not really a game but kind of like an ice breaker. It's two truths and a lie. You say three things about yourself and two of them are true and one isn't true. And then I have to see if I can guess which one, it's not true. 

Bijou

So, this was really hard. This can be really hard for me. Uh, let me think. Um, I love working out. Um, I speak four languages. I love teaching. 

Rechelle

Teaching. Okay. Um, you love working out. You speak four languages, and you love teaching. Okay, so I'm going to walk through them out loud. I think you do love teaching and I'm going to say, gosh, I bet you do speak four languages, whatever the native dialect is for Congo, which I'm talking about that a minute, plus English plus French and maybe something else. I'm gonna say if I'm going to say the lie is maybe that you don't love working out. I certainly don't love it. 

Bijou

You got it right! Working out it's like a punishment for me. I love, I love cooking and, but the good thing is I as much as I cook, um, I don't necessary eat. I'm just the kind of person who like to host, and make people feel good and comfortable, but myself, I don't really eat that much. 

Rechelle

Okay. 

Bijou

Yes. It's many of my husband and the kids, so I don't have to work out. 00:06:44 It's just not my thing. 

Rechelle

Okay. I understand that I understand. Yes. Okay. One of your favorite movies of all time?

Bijou

Okay. I don't know if you, you know about this movie, but it's called La Bamba. Have you heard about it?

Rechelle

Is that the one with Lou Diamond Phillips?

Bijou

Yes. Yes, yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Uh This movie, I loved it so much. I know I was young when it came out, but my dad had it and we used to watch it on the weekend and it's something that really stay deep in my heart. And when I think about it, it kind of brings up memories of so much that happened in our society. Just to think about how this young man, which he was in love with Donna and Donna's parents wouldn't let him because he was a Latino and uh socially speaking, it couldn't match you know that family because Donna was coming from a very rich family, but you just don't know what someone's tomorrow will be like.

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Rechelle

That's right. 

Bijou

Just 1 song and Richie became famous. Uh and then when you think about it, and you realize how his brother became jealous. It opens eyes to see how you can have enemies sometimes even within your own family because of a blessing. So that that story always connects me sometimes to the story of joseph, how his brother was jealous of him for all the blessings that he was getting from his father. And the story of Richie really catches me in that area, and I was like, so yeah, I will never forget that story. 

Rechelle

Oh, That's a good one. I haven’t seen that in a long time. That is a really good one. I'm so glad you brought that one up and I think it sounds like it also brings up memories of when you were younger and watching it with your father.

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Bijou

Exactly. Exactly. 

Rechelle

Yeah. That’s really sweet.

Bijou

And that love story of two teenager, and I met my husband when a teenager and yeah.

Rechelle

That's so sweet. Name a woman that inspires you. 

Bijou

Yeah, Rechelle, I remember one time, I don't know, you posted something on your Instagram, and it was that question, and I said my grandmother, her name was Lydia. 

Rechelle

Yes. Yeah, Lydia. Yes. Yeah. Alright, why does your grandmother inspire you? Lydia. 

Bijou

Uh that woman, she had such a presence, and I would say she was just the embodiment of the proverbs 31 woman: very wise um virtuous woman and the prayerful woman. Every time I spoke to her, I came out with a word of wisdom from her. So, and then you know, that's how I even decided to name my daughter after her -- Lydia. I only have one daughter; I have four boys and one girl, and I decided to name her after my grandmother because of the connection that I personally had with her. She was like my best friend and when I lost her, it was really hard for me, but God blessed me with my daughter, and I decided to name her Lydia just like her.

Rechelle

Gosh, that's so beautiful to keep that legacy going and I'm sure when you see your daughter, you’re thinking of her and that connection? That is really beautiful. Okay, so this next question. A piece of wisdom you keep handy. Maybe it's something Lydia your grandmother shared with you or not. What's a piece of wisdom you keep handy? 

Bijou

She always told me, um, do everything with a good heart and expect nothing in return. And there is the scripture I think it’s Ecclesiastes 11:1 that she always mentioned. Uh, do not expect anything. Do not expect anything to give you back from whatever you do for them because you don't know where your blessing will actually come from. And you know, expectation always leads to disappointment, and I hate to disappoint myself. I don't like to disappoint myself. So, I don't expect anything and whatever right to, to uh, to do to people around me, I just do it with a good heart. And uh, and there's something that I always tell my kids, sometimes they ask me about my food. They're like, mom, what do you put in your food? They say I cook it with love. I put all my heart in everything I do. And I mean that's really, um, a piece of wisdom that's always, you know, I kept in my heart, and it really ties to my grandmother, and I just take it as a way of living.

Rechelle

Well because if we're giving something that really should be the act itself is exactly not expecting something acknowledgement or something in return. The focus should be on us giving the gift, whatever that might be. 

Bijou

You know, I'm gonna tell you this one time, like you said, when we give, we give it from our heart, I saw a program of this woman she runs a nonprofit on Facebook on Instagram; so sometimes she does like a call for action and occasionally when I can give her something. And she used to acknowledge me on her stories. And one time I told her, please don't do that when I give, I'm not giving for you to acknowledge me on your page, you can acknowledge for anything else, but that's between me and my God -- it's not something I want people to know publicly that I gave to this charity. I supported your charity. It just not the way I work. 

Rechelle

Well, that was really lovely of you to kindly gently let her know I'm not doing it for the acknowledgement I really want just to give out of my heart, and please don't you know, publicly acknowledge me because then people might think that that that's the focus when it's not at all.

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Bijou

Exactly  

Rechelle

All right. So here we go to the deep dive, this is your passion. Now, I know that you have two passions. I want to get to both of them. So, I started following you. I'm not a foodie like you are now I love good food don't get me wrong, don't get me wrong. You love to cook and let me tell you listener these pictures of her food should be hanging in a museum. I've never seen anything like this. So artful. So, I mean the design, sometimes the cemetery, the colors, the textures, it's all there in every picture. And one time I remember I think you put this on stories where you show that it it really takes a lot of pictures for you to pick the one. And of course, I'm thinking oh my gosh snaps a picture and here it is. 00:14:58 I'm not realizing that no, behind the scenes you take a lot of pictures you get that one that you really really like. So, you know walk us through how you got interested in cooking. Um let's start there and then I'll go ahead and say that. And I want to be gosh I want to be sure I'm saying this right viungo. Oh, so close. Yes that’s V. I. U. N. G. O. And that means spice or seasoning in Swahili. So, Swahili is the language you grew up speaking I'm guessing?

Bijou

Not really. It's I think I'll say to my second language growing up.

Rechelle

Because I know there's four languages -- I forgot to ask about that! 

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Bijou

I grew up speaking French. I grew up speaking French and in Congo when you live in the capital which is Kinshasa mainly people speak, you speak two languages there: French and Lingala, Lingala which is like a common language for everybody who lives in the capital. But then everybody will live in the capital came from another states. And in their states, they have their own languages in their province, they have their own languages. So, Swahili is the languages spoken in my province, which is the eastern Congo. So, if all the eastern Congo people speak Swahili. So, my parents spoke Swahili and that's how I learned Swahili from them. And uh, so I grew up speaking French and Lingala from the capital and now English yes.

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Rechelle

You speak four languages. . . Oh my God wondering, Okay, because not too long ago you switch the name of your Instagram account from, I think mama's blessed kitchen or something to Viungo?

Bijou

Yeah, viungo means seasoning

Rechelle

Okay, viungo seasoning. Okay, so okay, so now tell us how you ever started, you know being interested in cooking, learning about cooking. How did that happen? Or has it always been that way since a little girl?

Bijou

That's what I wanted to say. I grew up, my, my grandmother was a great cook. My mom is I think maybe 10 times better than what I do. So, I grew up in that environment. I grew up in that environment and it kind of built my character and my taste.  So you asked me a question about switching the name of my page? It was because at some point, I will be sharing when I will share my recipe on my page, I don't necessarily share my recipe, I just took pictures. But sometimes on my phone I have an app called WhatsApp. Have you ever heard about it? So, I use WhatsApp. Sometimes I share my pictures on money on WhatsApp. And I noticed that a lot of my friends will ask me for the recipe and when I give them my recipe, sometimes they are not able to reproduce exactly what I did. Or when I have guests in my house and they eat, they asked me for recipe. I'll give them the recipe, but they are not able to produce exactly what I did. And then I was like, you know what, why not doing my own spices that way. If someone asked me for a recipe, I can tell them exactly what to use to have the same taste.

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So, I started making my own recipe and the story behind uh, the, the viungo thing, it's just um, I think you're going to talk about it maybe at some point I have the nonprofit, a nonprofit that helps women and children in Congo. And I wanted to bring up something. Um, that will help me to talk in a positive way about my country because I didn't want for my case to always hear about the negative things are happening in my country. So that's how I started making my spice. So, when I have events, I can have them taste food and talk about the taste for food in Congo. And so, they can discover the beauty of my country and discover the other side besides only learning about what's not working, what's going on. So that's how I started making those the spices and that and cut in connection with also helping my friend has made beautiful food and the recipe. So that's kind of background story. And that's how when I started making them, I decided to change the name of the page. 

Rechelle

Well that is just so moving because you're taking the spices from your country from Congo and you're, you know, mixing them together and you're actually packaging and selling them now. So, people really can replicate your recipes and exactly taking some of that and you're pouring it back into your country. 

And that's what I want to see to just try this name. Moseka Action Project?

Bijou

You’re right, Moseka Action Project.  

Rechelle

So that's your other passion. That's your nonprofit.

Bijou

Exactly. 

Rechelle

Okay. So, tell us about that. 

Bijou

Well, like I said, I was born and raised in Congo. I left my country, um in 2003.  And uh, and that right after I finished college, I went to the, in the eastern part of my country and there was war over there. Women were raped like every single day. About 200,000 women have been raped. And when I'm talking about rape, it's not like an action of men trying to find pleasure and no, it was like the body of women were used as a weapon. Rape was used as a weapon of war. So, I started volunteering at a hospital that my uncle leads in the eastern Congo. It's called Panzi Hospital. And my uncle worked so hard to help those women in the eastern Congo that he even got economic peace prize in 2018. Yes Dr. Denis Mukwege. So, after volunteering there and I moved to France and then I moved to America.

I always had that in my heart that I wanted to do something more to have those remain because what happened afterwards, some women found themselves pregnant and they have kids and those kids that didn't ask to be there, they didn't ask to be born, but they just, you know, finding themselves in a situation, they have no one to care for them. They can't go to school and I as a mother, I have five kids. I'm working hard to have my kids to achieve their dream and goal to be good man for the good citizen for this country. So, I just imagine how beautiful it could be for me to help those kids born out of rape to have education and at the same time help their mother to become independent to empower them through business literacy and small activities. So that's how I started Moseka.

Rechelle

Wow okay, so you're giving back to those women and the children.

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Bijou

Exactly. 

Rechelle

And is that through like clothing, shelter, microloans, health care, I mean how is there or is there a particular area that you're targeting? 

Bijou

Oh God… (laughing)

Rechelle

You’re telling us four areas start again with the first area. 

Bijou

So, the first one is um a Dream Come True which is focused on education. So, we provide education for the kids, we send them to school, we have them with after school program and we give them some lunch, we just want to give them the opportunity to feel like there are normal kids, they didn't do anything wrong, it's not their fault. So, you know, Rechelle, I always say that if I can even get one child from those kids to become a doctor or a lawyer or a teacher or someone in his life, I will say Lord, I have done what you asked me. Maybe Marceca was created just for that one particular person or one particular child. 

So that's the way I see it. So, with the Dream Come True program, we provide education for the kids. Uh we have a family empowerment program which is focusing on empowering women. So the models of the child, we walked with them through the entire year with business literacy and at the end of the business literacy, we give them like micro loan to start a small business but they can they take the microloans it's only once when they get into the program because we are already working with the child and our goal is to have them to take ownership of their life and to move on. They can't stay in the state of feeling victimized the entire life. We want to have them, it's not like a handout but we are hand up so we have them to become to feel like you know I can participate in my community and that's what's happening because when those women start participating in the community, they found the value and space in the community.

Yes, so that's what we're doing and the third one is called club for Panzi with clothes for Panzi was a year we connect clothes here, you know I usually do it with my kids, when they have birthday. Um we talked about it the as the parents we offer them whatever they want as a gift but then we asked them to ask their friends to bring gift that we can send to the kids in the Congo. Because I came to realize that they don't really need the kids for a gift from friends. You know usually parents spent $20/$30 dollars to buy gifts for you know the kids, but they can play with just one day or two days and then the next day it’s in the trash and I realized you know, but this money can be used to help another child, why not? And I made them understand that now. They are always excited when their birthday is coming.  They ask what are we doing? Sometimes we do some screen, we collect some screen for people with Albany Zoo in Congo. Sometimes we collect clothes that we send to Pansy hospital for the babies and their mothers, and my kids love to do it especially when they see the expression on the kids on the other side when they received the clothes, they feel like they have accomplished something. To me I think it's also a way to teach them compassion. They are learning how to have compassion for others. And the 4th one is our community development program where we participate in activities that are about helping people with disability. It's also faithfully and wonderfully made. We help people with disability. We help people with albinism with scholarship and any other activity that they can maybe be interested in.  So those are the four things that we do. 

Rechelle

Wow! You are one busy woman. You've created, you created this nonprofit, you've also got the viungo seasoning spices, spices that you sell, plus you're cooking up a storm for a family of seven. I'm trying to figure out how; I'm marveling at how all the many balls that you have in the air and, and that you are just an incredible example for your Children. And that's not why you're doing it, but you are setting this example. You're like you said a hand up not a handout. That is really just so well said. I love too how you've woven all of those things together. 

Bijou

Exactly. They are all connected. 

Rechelle

All connected. All, every part of your life is connected to another part. And even though you don't live in the Congo, you are really active and wanting to, you know, give back to particularly the women and the Children there and that is a very vulnerable population and clearly very much needed. Yes. Well, so you've adjusted to living in the States, you've been here a while now and um recently made a move and are the kids, they're kind of getting adjusted to their new surroundings and all?

Bijou

Yes. And I mean, it's a blessing to have five kids. I realize that now, you know with the Covid situation, you, you may have heard about kids getting depressed because they can’t see their friends and all that. And uh, it was hard, and I must say that I have realized how blessed I am during the covid situation, the pandemic, and now they're moving because honestly my kids are really friends among themselves, they played together, they spend time together. 00:30:00

And uh so they didn't really feel that lack of not seeing people around them. So, they are really adjusting. But they can't wait to go back to school. They really can't wait. 

Rechelle

Well yeah, that's you know, that's a sense of normalcy for them and all of that. 

Bijou

We can't wait for that. 

Rechelle

Right? Yes. Yes. Okay. So, do you post seven days a week or do you do you have a set schedule? 

Bijou

Uh Usually for my page I usually post maybe three times a week. But with the moving and everything things got shuffled and I've been posting maybe twice a week or once a week depending. And so, I get all my extensive because I'm in a small apartment and like I just have what is needed for this season. So, I am not getting myself, you know overwhelmed with all you know the fancy thing that I usually do.

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Rechelle

Um Yeah, I know that you have this picture. I think they were all cheering each other with tacos. 

Bijou

Yes. Yes. Yes. So cute. How do you come up with your ideas? I mean do you take pictures of what you're already going to cook, or do you know what you want to take pictures of?

Bijou

You know, I don't, you know with the pandemic situation, my husband you know and everybody working from home, it was funny because my husband usually uh we just come out of his office and ate his lunch and then like he was really having fun. And now he's really hating going back to office. He is really hating going back to office. I don't really plan in advance what I'm going to cook. It's just like I opened my fridge and I start having ideas or in the midst of cooking, I started having ideas or sometimes after cooking, like the presentation comes after cooking like I can do this.

00:32:12

Rechelle

Yes. They really are so truly very artistic. Is your art or your creativity? Is it elsewhere in your life? I mean do you paint or draw or?

Bijou

I don't paint, I don't draw. But I am really into house decor and um fashion. Okay, so those three, those three areas I'm like cooking, house décor, and fashion? And that's why even for my page, my page at the beginning, I didn't know what to do. I was like, and I don't want to confuse people, and I was like, do I do fashion? Do I do house decor? I'm like, okay, I don't want to put my house out there and then fashion, I'm like, oh no, I don't want to put my personal life, you know, so I'm like, ok, food, nobody will look at my face on the food. So that's how I decided to go for food. 00:33:15 And occasionally I can make me posted my story, my picture and uh yes.

Rechelle

That's wonderful. Is there anything I missed? I'll be sure and have all your contact. And so, do you have an Instagram account for Moseka? 

Bijou

Oh yes, yeah, it's Moseka Action Project. 

Rechelle

Okay. I'll be sure to have all your influence there so everybody knows how to get in touch with you. Uh, this lady is absolutely just a golden, just a golden, wonderful woman. I'm so, I feel very blessed and very privileged to have connected with you through Instagram and then now in real life. It was worth the wait. You are a giving gracious, classy, elegant, beautiful woman.

Bijou

Thank you.

00:34:19

Rechelle

I'm so grateful and I look forward to whatever other good things you're going to put out there and I really want to support your efforts now that I actually understand better what you're doing. So, I want to be sure and be supportive.

Bijou

Thank you so much. I appreciate it, Rechelle.

Rechelle

When I found out your name was Bijou, I was like, oh that is such a great name. 

Bijou

You know what it means? 

Rechelle

No!

Bijou

Oh, it means jewel.

Rechelle

I was debating whether to call you golden or a diamond. Yeah, you are a jewel. I love saying it -- Bijou. It's such a wonderful thing to say, great name. Well, thank you for spending this time with me. I'm looking forward to putting this together and getting it out into the world. 

Bijou

Thank you so much for having me, Rechelle. 

Rechelle

We'll be in touch soon. Thank you, alrighty, goodbye.

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I found the weaving of all the things that matter most to Bijou exhilarating. 00:35:31

She's taken every part of her life and created a beautiful tapestry of serving, compassion and using her gifts for the greater good of others. Her heart for the women and Children of Congo has been put into action. Bijou knows that love does, so she loves and she does. Let's be more like that. The Unabashed You website has a guest page for each guest of photos, quotes in a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms. Want to lend your support and encouragement -- we invite you to subscribe, follow, rate, review, and share. Still waiting on west Virginia and Rhode Island to discover us our social media accounts Instagram and Facebook Unabashed You. If you want to connect the email is [email protected] For questions, comments etcetera. And if you want to be on our weekly email list highlighting that week's episode, give me a shout. I'd be happy to add you, your info will not be shared.

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