When did you first start changing yourself to fit in?

For Dr. Jovan Keith, the answer goes all the way back to kindergarten.

In the first episode of Done Fitting In, Jovan looks back at the moments that taught her to pay attention to what other people approved of—from trying to fit in at school and wanting to know the “right” music, to beauty standards, achievement, and the opinions that can stay with us long after the people who gave them are gone.

Along the way, she explores how other people’s reactions can quietly become our own internal rules—and how to begin separating who you really are from who you learned you were supposed to be.

You’ll also learn a simple practice—Notice. Question. Choose.—to help you recognize when an old expectation may be making a decision for you.

Because sometimes the room is long gone, but we’re still following its rules.

Your Done Fitting In Experiment: Notice one preference this week and ask yourself: Do I actually like this—or did I learn to like this?

Continue the conversation: Join Dr. Jovan Keith on Substack for essays, reflections, and each week's Done Fitting In Experiment. https://mahoganyprotege.substack.com

What happens when you stop becoming the version of yourself everyone else expects?

Done Fitting In with Dr. Jovan Keith is a podcast about the rules women inherit, the ways we learn to edit ourselves to belong, and what it looks like to live and lead more honestly.

Pull up a seat. New episodes arrive every Tuesday.

Continue the conversation: Join Dr. Jovan Keith on Substack for essays, reflections, and each week's Done Fitting In Experiment. https://mahoganyprotege.substack.com