December 02, 2022

Don't be a People Pleaser 😧

20 minutes

People Pleasers tell everyone what they want to hear, they always say yes to everything.

Now you may think the People Pleaser is the nice guy, the good guy, the GO TO guy.

Wrong.

People Pleasers are liars and manipulators.

They are trying to manipulate your reaction for their own emotional satisfaction.

They never want you to be angry with them – so they only tell you what they want you to hear.

They hate conflict. They are avoiding a difficult situation by being dishonest and ultimately,
It is all about them.

So the bottom line is - they can’t be trusted.

If you have someone you rely on and trust because they always say yes to you. Take a good hard look at what’s really going on.

Things may not be what they seem.

Trust your gut.

The Flip Side – don’t be a People Pleaser.

I have to come clean – I have done this myself in the past. It’s not a good feeling and it always leave a bad taste in your mouth.

It’s also exhausting and you are selling yourself short – literally.

Also, when you start to fall into the trap of pleasing people, it’s very hard to stop. You want everyone to like you.

In Sales our role is to solve problems and to find solutions. But the right solutions.

Providing answers and solutions that that don’t work or aren’t true to get the deal over the line will always end badly.

If you spend your entire career trying to avoid conflict, you are going to end up creating bigger problems long term.

Instead do this:-

• Tell the truth – honesty never backfires
• Say No when the answer is NO
• Admit you don’t know the answer – but attempt to find out
• Admit you can’t do something
• Walk away from a bad deal
• Stand up for yourself

Remember, it is a lot harder to undo something you’ve done or said than to not do it in the first place.

From Podcast Million Dollar Agent - Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcast, iHeart Radio, Pandora and more.
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