Dealing with a teen whose behavior is inappropriate, and whose life is spinning out of control, takes a parent who’s focused. I mean, focused like a laser.

Your teen will try and distract you by acting out. But don’t be fooled, there’s something else going on beneath the surface. As a mom or dad, it’s your job to look beyond the behavior, to the source of rebellion.

Perhaps your child is grieving the loss of a relationship or dream. Or maybe the pain of loneliness at school is manifesting itself in smoking or taking drugs. What’s happening on the outside, can give us clues to the real pain on the inside.

So, as much as your teen’s behavior is rockin’ your world, take time to carefully study what’s really goin’ on. Try to find the true cause of pain and rebellion. Once you identify the source, the healing can begin.

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