We've all heard some of the basic advice for keeping a long-term relationship alive.

“Don't go to bed angry.”

“You have to resolve every conflict.”

“Love is all you need.” (according to the Beatles)

While none of these are accurate, the latter point, sadly, is especially off the mark. Love is a necessary, but not sufficient condition for a satisfying relationship. We have to have a whole lot more than that to keep a relationship on the rails. So, what DO we need? Listen in as Kyrie shares her top five pieces of advice in this episode, based around John Gottman’s research, attachment theory, and her own observations as a therapist and as a human.

Sneak Peak at the 5 Keys:

* Remember, you used to like this person!

* You need a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.

* You have to care about what your partner wants.

* Get your own house in order.

* Know that relationships are attachment opportunities.

In the episode, Kyrie mentions a research study known as the Still Face Experiment (Dr. Ed Tronick, 1975). Visit her show notes at practicalpsychpod.substack.com for a link to a video about this research.

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