Tony explains "Doomscrolling," or when one feels like they can't break loose from continually scrolling through newsfeeds, or social media despite the fact that the more one scrolls, the worse one feels. Tony references the article "Understanding Doomscrolling," by Simone Scully https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/what-is-doomscrolling#tips-to-stop

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[00:00:22] Hey, everybody, welcome to the virtual couch. My name is Tony OVERBY. This is episode number 323. I did that all backwards, but I still am a licensed marriage and family therapist and continuing by popular demand. If you go to Tony over Baker workshop, I have an hour and a half marriage communication workshop where I talk about how we show up in relationships, the fact that just being part of the human race, you are emotionally immature coming out of your childhood and your adolescence, and all of a sudden we meet somebody and we just want to get it right. We have this these deep seated abandonment fears or wounds. And so we're trying to show up in a relationship and make sure that we don't mess it up. And then over the process of relationships, life happens. We we get jobs, we have kids, people get sick. We have to move. We have financial pressures. And that's when we realize we are two different people in this relationship with two completely different experiences growing up. Even if during the courtship and early on in our relationship, we felt like everything was so easy. And it's easy because you're, quite frankly, you're not dealing with a whole lot of things right out of the gate. I mean, you're dealing with the things that newlyweds or people early in a relationship deal with. But when stuff starts to go down, when stuff starts to happen in your life, that's when you find out, Oh, we have different opinions and it is so normal, so natural to not truly know how to effectively communicate.

[00:01:39] And if you are the person that feels like, no, my marriage is a breeze, like this has been a piece of cake. Does your spouse have a voice? Do you truly understand and know them or do you feel like, of course I know what they're thinking because if you do, that may mean that they don't feel like they are able to express themselves because you are often probably telling them, No, that's not what you mean. No, I know. I know you better than yourself or that's not what I meant. Or anyway, I could go on and on. I love that stuff so much. I think you owe it to yourself. There's a dramatic term to go to Tony over Macomb Workshop. There is a small fee, $19 to get that workshop,