DOUBLE TAKE: Navigating Life's Second Act

Tami has five journals, each about a quarter of the way used — and she's pretty sure journaling just isn't her thing. Tanya calls journaling one of the most powerful practices in her life. So what's the difference?

In this episode, Tanya breaks down what actually makes journaling stick: letting go of the Pinterest-perfect version (no punctuation required, and yes, you're allowed to burn the pages), creating a space that feels inviting instead of obligatory, and simple prompts to get you unstuck — including her LIGHT framework, five questions for a full check-in with yourself.

But underneath the practical tips is a bigger midlife question: when's the last time you asked yourself what you actually want? For women who've spent decades tending to everyone else, the page might be the one place you finally get to tell the truth.

Grab a pen. There are no rules.

We like to think completing treatment is the finish line, but Tanya learned it's just the beginning.

In part two of her story on Double Take, she opens up about what coming home really looked like — the transition no one prepared her for, the toll on her own nervous system, and the parts of herself she discovered needed healing too. She also shares what she wishes someone had told her at the start, and the resource that helped her most along the way.

Four and a half years later, Tanya shares where they are now.

This episode discusses eating disorders, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. If you or someone you love needs support, please call or text 988.

Resources Mentioned:

The Parallel Process https://a.co/d/03dOGLLO

Ava's Poetry Books:

the words i never spoke: https://a.co/d/040e6uuN

Patterns of Love: https://a.co/d/06gRaUFV

All Before She Was 18: https://a.co/d/05H9HiNs

This one is personal. In this episode, Tanya opens up about one of the hardest seasons of her life — walking alongside her daughter through a mental health crisis, and discovering that everything she thought it meant to be a good mom was getting in the way.

From uprooting her life and moving to Portland, to sitting outside a coffee shop and finally surrendering the one thing she'd been gripping the hardest — control — this is a story about fear, love, and what it actually looks like to show up for someone you'd do anything for.

This episode discusses eating disorders, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. If you or someone you love needs support, please call or text 988.

Resources Mentioned:

The Parallel Process https://a.co/d/03dOGLLO

Ava's Poetry Books:

the words i never spoke: https://a.co/d/040e6uuN

Patterns of Love: https://a.co/d/06gRaUFV

All Before She Was 18: https://a.co/d/05H9HiNs

This Mother's Day, Tanya and Tami are having the conversation every mom needs to hear. How becoming a mom is one of life's greatest gifts — and how it can also mean quietly losing yourself along the way. From helicopter parenting to hiding behind your kids to avoid the hard stuff in your marriage, they get honest about identity, codependency, and what it might look like to finally come home to yourself. A love letter to every mom who has given everything she has, and is ready to start giving a little back to herself too.

We're a month into 49 — the last year before half a century — and things are already moving. Tanya's watching her daughter launch into adulthood. Tami's navigating a spring without baseball for the first time in years. And somehow we ended up in the deep end: what we're done carrying into the second half — anticipatory anxiety, playing small, fawning, and the roles we never actually signed up for.

Because that's what 49 is turning out to be. The discomfort of changing your role in a relationship. The book quietly rearranging how we see ourselves. Why we're both turning our earbuds off on walks. And the question we're sitting with heading into 50: how do I want to feel?

Not a bucket list. Just two twins, one honest conversation, and a whole lot of unlearning.

What if your vacation is actually revealing something you've been too busy to see?

Tanya and Tami get honest about the invisible weight of managing everyone else's experience — and how it quietly keeps us from ever really arriving, no matter where we go. They dig into where that pattern comes from, why it's so hard to put down, and what it might look like to finally just be somewhere instead of orchestrating everyone else's experience.

The hardest part isn't getting there. It's actually showing up once you do.

This week's invitation: Identify one thing you want for yourself on your next trip — and protect it!

What in your life still needs wintering? What parts of you are asking for rest, even as everything around you says to push forward?

In this episode, we explore the concept of "wintering"—those in-between spaces that deserve more than just powering through. We share our own experiences with difficult seasons and examine the signs that we're pushing too hard instead of allowing ourselves the rest and reflection that wintering requires.

How do you distinguish between healthy resilience and harmful resistance? What happens when we ignore our need to slow down, retreat, and restore? From the physical effects of actual winter to the emotional landscape of life's challenging chapters, we discuss why these fallow periods might be preparing us for what's next—if we can learn to honor them instead of just endure them.

In this heartfelt continuation, Tami shares the hardest parts of co-parenting after divorce—from answering tough questions to introducing new partners, and why forgiveness isn't a one-time decision but a daily practice. She reveals the moment she knew her marriage was over and offers her best advice for those in the overwhelming early stages.

This episode gets real about the emotional work of creating a thriving blended family, managing unexpected grief that surfaces years later, and why what feels impossible today can become what you're most proud of tomorrow. A must-listen for anyone navigating divorce or supporting someone who is.

Her marriage ended, her family didn't. In this deeply personal conversation, Tami shares her co-parenting journey - the broken moments, the unexpected gifts, and how one unshakable thread kept them whole through it all. She shares the counterintuitive truths she discovered along the way and the wisdom that transformed her approach to motherhood. Raw, real, and full of hard-won insight (Part 1 of 2).

The holidays hit differently in midlife—especially when juggling aging parents, teenagers, and shifting energy levels.

We discuss honoring your energy, navigating family expectations, and why choosing what truly matters might be the most generous gift you give this year. Hear our journey of releasing traditions, creating new rituals that fill our cups, and how we've set boundaries in our own lives without guilt.

Whether you're ready to reimagine your celebration or simply need permission to do less, this episode helps you create holidays that prioritize what actually matters. Perfect for anyone feeling overwhelmed by holiday expectations or ready for more intentional celebrations.