This is Linda M Hughes, Psychic Medium and Grief Coach.

Action #2 Of Step 3 – Reconnecting With Yourself, Is to figure out what's wrong with you! 

Why Is This So Important? 

Here is why it became important to me. Even though I use the actions/steps I recommend to you, I still feel the kick in the chest from the memories of the loss of my loved ones. Initially, I felt like everything was my fault.  If only I had... why didn't I see this sooner... What if I had... What if I had stopped... I know, it happened because... on and on it went.

Every day was another acceptance of blame, shame and guilt. I felt like if I wore this guilt and accepted the blame/shame, that somehow they would be returned to me.

 And then in even more disgust, I would mutter to myself, "What is wrong with me?" 

About 6 months after the loss of my husband, I knew I had to find a way to connect to something solid and real, the only thing I KNEW was real, was me. I was solid, I was real, I existed. I didn’t like anything about me at that moment in time, but at least it was a place to start.

 In my search for any solutions to the problems I had at that moment, I did find one that was immensely helpful for reconnecting with myself. As we get to know each other and if you are willing, I will share more and more of this tool with you.

For today, I introduce you to what I call a "Thought Exercise - For Your Daily Mental Workout!":

"The World Is NOT What You Think It Is, It IS What You Think"

 The video clip in this episode explains this perfectly, please check it out:

Considering all of the things on your plate right now, changing how you think is probably not a top priority. Until it is, try this out.

 Ever noticed that your well meaning support people and even strangers may greet you, by saying:

What’s Wrong?

Or have you ever said this to yourself?

What else can go wrong? 

And then, just like wicked magic something IS wrong and something DOES go wrong.

So, Let’s Change This!!!!
Let’s kick this 1st “Thought Exercise” into high gear!

First of all, change “you” to “me”.
Next, change the word “wrong” to “right”. What’s right with me?

What else can go right today?

Consider the possibility that there is nothing wrong with you!!!!
Then let your day flow forward.

 For me, it worked like warm, loving magic.
All of a sudden, I could look in the mirror for more than a second of disgust.

And then I noticed that things started to go my way, they just started to change for the better.

You may have to gently guide your support people in making these adjustments.

They will, because they only want the best for you!

This will help you retrain yourself to look for the “right” instead of “ the wrong” things in your life.

Old habits don’t change overnight. Give yourself that "space of grace" to try and then do.
Small, tiny steps forward add up to some serious ground covered at the end of a week.

Until then, I wish you love, peace, hope and inspiration.

Link to video within this recording:

https://lindamhughespsychicmedium.com/2026/03/25/world-is-not-what-you-think-it-is-it-is-what-you-think-032526-thought-exercise-at-dove-tales/

Don’t worry, this is not a meditation.  It’s more than a thought for the day.  And I promise, no workout gear is needed!

Grab a cup of your favorite breakfast drink, get comfy andenjoy this sweet treat!

It’s FREE

I just ask you to sign up for it, so that I can send you mentalgood vibes as you receive it!

I will list the link to the download in the comments below.

Love, peace, hope and inspiration to you.

 Download this reconnection exercise with the following linkfrom my website:

https://lindamhughespsychicmedium.com/mind-body-emotion-reconnection-exercise/

Linda M Hughes Psychic Medium and grief coach here.

Although you can take Steps 1 through 4 at any time, in orout of sequence, please know that some things have been put in a certain order. For example, the Self Care Tips listed in Step 1 will always be timely, no matter where you are on your path, but are specifically intended for those that have just experienced the loss of their loved ones. I have included a link to that video in the comments below.

The Self Care Tips in Step 3 can be used if your loss isrecent, but they are geared more towards those who have moved out of the shock/trauma phase and are ready to start rebuilding their inner lives after loss.

Let’s take a look at Action #3 in this video. This action #3 can be done right before getting out of bed after a full nights sleep and/or after a nap.

Before you get out of bed:

-Gently roll to your side, -raise yourself slowly up with your arms,

-pause, -breathe deeply,

-slowly move your legs over to the edge of the bed

-and then raise yourself to a sitting and then a standingposition.

I read about this awhile ago and try to practice it everyday. Reasons given for doing this are to care for your heart. In sleep mode, your overall resting state means that:

-your heart rate slows down (often to between 40 and 60beats per minute for a healthy adult),

-blood pressure decreases,

-the body conserves energy and focuses on rest and repair,

-which is a vital part of the body's daily cycle, allowingthe cardiovascular system a period of reduced workload.

When you blast out of bed and hit the ground running, youshock your heart into instant, full on work mode. Going the slow route might help your heart function better, longer. At the least, you will catch a moment of personal zen before you begin the rough and tumble of your day. It's simple, easy and free, so why not try it?

I will add a new post to this post every 4th week on Wednesday afternoons.

If you have questions, need more clarification or would like to talk about these things, please:
start by commenting below or:

Sign up and attend an “Our Place” Community get-together or Schedule a private session from my website

But what I would really like you to do is to:

Sign up for a FREE 1 hour group session with me & no more than 4 others!

Those 4 could be family, friends, neighbors or someone else who was close to your loved one. It may also be someone new to you that has signed up from the site.

- I will share a synopsis of the work to be done in each of the private 5 week sessions,

All of which are geared towards helping you reconnect to yourself after your loss.
- or during the 1 Day 5 hour long Small Group Intensive held one Saturday of the month.
- you can introduce yourself,
- share a little bit of your story
- and ask your questions!

 If you got something out of this recording, please comment, like, share and subscribe for free. This will help me reach others that are looking for hope and support during the immediate loss of a loved one. Also, please stop by my website to learn more about this Step 3 as well as Steps 1, 2 & 4 in my Rebuild Your Inner Life After Loss Program.

Here is the link to my site:

https://lindamhughespsychicmedium.com/the-purpose-of-step-three-is-to-help-you-reconnect-with-yourself/

I will leave the link in the comments below. Thank you in advance.

Linda M Hughes Psychic Medium and grief coach here.

Let’s talk about how a simple change of attitude can be astable foundation for all other actions when learning how to reconnect with yourself.  This is simply to put yourself at the top of your “to-do” list every day, all day long. So easy to say and so hard to do, especially if you have been the primary care-giver in the life of your family, immediate and/or extended. This can seem almost impossible to do if you are a hard charging entrepreneur or a super achieving employee or student.

So, yeah, pretty much all of us. From today forward, make it happen.  You are important to you, your immediate world and to the larger world community. 

While you work on that, I have included 2 other self care tips that you can start immediately & that wont  take large chunks of your time. Matter of fact, you can build these things into your day, just by hanging out in bed for a few more minutes each morning.

Today’s 1st mini-tip is this:

When you first come out of sleep, before you startthinking:

-immediately notice and take control of your breathing,

-keep the relaxed, soothing breathing pattern that you hadduring sleep,

-or if it wasn’t relaxed, calm yourself and intentionallybring it into that state,

-if you need help with this, contact me. from my website.

2nd mini-tip is: Take time to be grateful.

-The 1st time I tried this, the only thing I could think ofwas "my toothpaste tasted great this morning", -Start small, start slow, but start.

I read somewhere that it is impossible to be sad if you areexpressing your gratitude. I don’t know if that is true for everyone, but it seems to work for me and it just might work for you.

That’s it, just a few minutes out of your day each morning.And these 2 simple steps will help you reclaim your own personal sense of value & self-esteem. Those are the greatest gifts you can give yourself. And they are totally free, easy and within your control to do so.

I will add a new post to this post every 4th week onWednesday afternoons. If you have questions, needmore clarification or would like to talk about these things, please:
Start by commenting below or:

Sign up and attend an “Our Place” Community get-together or

Schedule a private session from my website

But what I would really like you to do is to:

Sign up for a FREE 1 hour group session with me & no more than 4 others!

Those 4 could be family, friends, neighbors or someone else that was close to the loved one you lost. It may also be someone new to you that has signed up from the site.

Here is the link to Step 3 Reconnecting With Yourself on my website:

https://lindamhughespsychicmedium.com/the-purpose-of-step-three-is-to-help-you-reconnect-with-yourself/

I will also include it in the comments below.

Linda M Hughes Psychic Medium and grief coach here.

After the deaths of my Loved Ones, I knew I had to find away to connect to something solid & real. The only thing I KNEW was real, was me. I was solid, I was real, I existed. I didn’t like anything about me at that moment in time, but at least it was a place to start.

In my search for any solutions to the problems I had atthat moment, I did find several "unique solutions" that wereimmensely helpful for reconnecting with myself.

Your 2nd Level Of Self Care Tips
Mind -Body - Emotion Reconnection Exercise don’t worry, you will only be working out your breathing, mental and emotional state, no dumbbells required
What's Wrong With You?
What's Right With You? 

Both great ways to analyze how you think about the way you think about yourself
I briefly discuss how our personal spiritual beliefs play a big factor in the way we feel about our lives and I do share mine with you throughout;

Spirituality, Your Unique Soul Level Gifts, Higher Self & Intuition
Frame Of Reference
What Are Your Unique Soul Level Gifts 

We will talk about those things that make you special and unique and in my signature workshop, I will use either a unique tool, or we will explore more traditional tools to determine this Testimonials- Soul Level Gifts
Let Me Help You Ignite Your Intuition? 

And finally, In the workshop, I will show you how to ignite your intuition, so that you start trusting the decisions that youmake no matter if they are big or small. Testimonials- Intuition

 If all this sounds like it might work for you, I lookforward to sharing these with you in this Step 3 Podcast.

I will add a new post to this post every 4th week onWednesday afternoons.

If you have questions, need more clarification or would like to talk about these things, please:
-Start by commenting below or:

-Sign up and attend an “Our Place” Community get-together or

-Schedule a private session from my website

But what I would really like you to do is to:

Sign up for a FREE 1 hour group session withme & no more than 4 others!

Those 4 could be family, friends,neighbors or someone else that was close to your loved one. It may also be someone new to you that has signed up from the site.

- I will share a synopsis of the work to be done in each of the private 5 week sessions,

All of which is geared towards helping you reconnect with yourself.
- or during the 1 Day 5 hour long Small Group Intensive held one Saturday of the month.
- you can introduce yourself,
- share a little bit of your story
- and ask your questions!

 If you got something out of this recording, please comment, like, share and subscribe for free. This will help me reach others that are looking to reconnect with themselves after the loss of a loved one. Also, please stop by my website to learn more about this Step 3 as well as Steps 1,2 and 4 in my Rebuild Your Inner Life After Loss Program. I will leave the link in the comments below. Thank you in advance.