Episode Key Points:

• The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around control
• Focus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic position
• Rescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help others

Signs You Might Be a Rescuer:

• Feeling exhausted by constant requests for help
• Getting frustrated when people don't take your advice
• Finding others' suffering difficult to bear
• Believing your goodness is measured by how effectively you help

Key Insights:

• Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundaries
• Helping without limits can disempower others
• True support involves inviting others to find their own solutions
• Co-dependency occurs when both parties are controlling each other's lives

Therapeutic Approach:

• Learn self-worth independent of helping others
• Value others' perspectives and processes
• Recognize when "helping" is actually controlling
• Understand that withdrawing support can be a form of genuine care

Practical Advice:

• Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "What you need to do is..."
• Avoid lecturing or judging
• Set clear boundaries
• Recognize your own feelings of inadequacy driving rescue behaviors

Takeaway: Healthy support means empowering others, not solving their problems for them.

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