Drinking With Your Ex (And Other Bad Ideas)

Blake and Bonnie come back from their summer hiatus to mock Blake as he turns the big 5-0 with Bonnie asking him non-stop invasive questions that imply that he's very, very, very old. In exchange, he gets to ask her one big uncomfortable question. Naturally, he waffs on all his hard questions, gets very optimistic, misty-eyed and sentimental, and Bonnie, once again, is the perfect nice one. The end.

Oh, and happy birthday, Blake! Party is in NYC, June 30, 2023@6pm, @The Long Pour, E 12th Street. Come buy Blake a drink! Or post comments or send greetings to [email protected]

Sound engineering by Jamey Young

Arty by Emily Taylor

Ever been in a relationship and thought "man, this guy should go to therapy?" Ever been in a fight with your partner and he said "you should definitely be in therapy?" Dear God, how do you even bring that up in a relationship (or hear it from your partner) without being angry, defensive, accusatory and kinda mean? #BonniesLoveLanguage #DroppingTherapyBombs #BitchBCrazy #RegressiveManBoyFTW

Blake and Bonnie are committed therapy enthusiasts but use this episode explore what therapy is, how to find a good therapist and what is the best (and definitely the worst) way to encourage someone you love to seek professional help. Bonnie favors the FBI interrogation/accusation approach while Blake compares that to pushing someone down a flight of stairs while yelling at them. #LEOKink #PeoplePayMore4That #ButWithLove

Sound engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

Do you really think Blake and Bonnie are as clever and funny as they sound? Do you also believe that unicorns and effective politicians are real, too? #IveGotBadNews4U #DontSitOnUnicorns #OrPoliticians

Blake and Bonnie invite Jamey Young, their immensely talented sound engineer onto the show to talk about crutch words, being an audio voyeur, whether Blake uses the phrases "candidly" and "I'm just being honest" as a way to deflect from answering the questions (Spoiler Alert: #Yup), what it's like to listen to two weirdos emotionally eviscerate themselves every week, why more podcasters should hire Jamey and whether being in a long-term relationship is any easier than being single. #SexIsBetter #AloneTimeIsMeTime #BlakeIsWeak #BonnieIsBest

Sound engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

When is dating younger than you TOO young? When is dating older than you TOO old? Is that even a useful question to have? After 40s, is age really anything but a number? #MayDecember4Lyfe #RIPowerAaliyah #EmotionalMaturityIsAThing

Act your age, not your shoe size, yo.

Blake and Bonnie giggle and snark their way through exploring what might be the "rules" for dating folks older and younger. We learn that Blake was an uncomfortable cradle robber and Bonnie was semi-ethical jailbait. Now they both have specific preferences that promptly get thrown out the window when amazing humans of any age agree to date them. #OldFashioned #PowerGames #DontBeADick

Sound engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

Did you know that the study of physical, mental and social changes in people as they age past 40 years is called GERONTOLGY? #Ouch #ButIMoisturize

Your social circle can be kind of small and focused once you've crossed over into your 40s/50s. Beyond dating options, sometimes you need/want/fear to just meet new people and establish new relationships. This desire can feel as daunting as crossing the gym room floor to ask your crush to dance in 7th grade. #ILikeYourBraces #GetJiggyWitIt

Blake and Bonnie talk about how friend groups can change with The Great Coupling Up, and how, as a species, it was sooo much easier to make new friends in high school/college. Dating at work can be just as harrowing as dating apps, but with much dire consequences for ghosting. #AwkwardHRMeeting #LoveContractsFTW

Finding your people when you're over 40 can and does feel like a PhD level of social skills, and we're all regressive weirdos, no matter what age it seems. Blake offers concrete, therapist-approved suggestions and Bonnie offers solidarity with The Awkward and snark. #BeMyFriend #Nerds4Blake

Audio Engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

What information is appropriate to share in a new dating relationship and what details should be kept private until the divorce attorneys are involved? #NotARealBlond #MemberOfHairClubForMen #Furries4Lyfe

You CAN unload all the messy details of your life on the Tinder profile, but should you? How about that one first date where that guy just word-vomited in intricate detail about his imminent bankruptcy, online clown porn addiction and emerging estrangement from his cold and withholding mother? #WordVomitIs4Lovers #AcceleratedIntimacy #WantToMoveInWithMe

Blake and Bonnie discuss how and when to disclose about topics ranging from employment, money, medical issues, kink, gender identity, sexual orientation, COMBO LOCKS, trauma-bonding and more - examining that fine line between appropriate and uncomfortable. #IHeartUncomfortable #ComboLock #ImAnOpenBook #TMI

Sound Engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

Blake and Bonnie are sponsoring a live event today at the 2023 SXSW Music Festival. Come see the amazing showcase at BLK Vinyl from 11am-4pm, March 16, 2023. All proceeds from the event will benefit The Sims Foundation. Please donate today to help musicians and their family have access to quality mental healthcare. www.simsfoundation.org/donate/

While Blake and Bonnie are inflicting themselves on a live audience, Drinking With Your Ex is bringing back a popular (and funny) episode from Season 1. 

Throwback Thursday Presents: Red Flags

LOST EPISODE #5 RECOVERED! Red flags, warning signs, irritating ticks, temporary restraining orders, adorable little foibles and complimentary personality disorders! Dating is a constant process of getting to know a person while also reading the signs; sometimes we run away from the flashing red lights and sometimes we are the bull running straight toward the red flag. #Ole #ThoughtItWasACarnival

Remember that guy that love-bombed you, then gaslit you and then ghosted, but lurked on your IG until coming back once your relationship status changed? #DickMove #ZombiesLive #NewPhoneWhoDis 

Was he a true blue DSM-V TR diagnosable narcissist or just a mediocre a##hole? #NotMutuallyExclusive  

How can you tell the difference? #ItsProbablyBlake

Blake and Bonnie explore the definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how narcissistic behavior plays out in all walks of life, not just dating. They propose basic litmus tests for your dates (and yourself) to help answer whether you are dating a narcissist or whether you ARE the narcissist. #TakesOneToKnowOne #NarcissismIsSelfCare #ItsProbablyBonnie

Audio engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor

Pornography is a wonder of modern life and dating; until it overtakes your life and you have the tax man, divorce lawyers and federal agents beating down your door to confiscate your modem and self-respect. #AllThingsInModeration #ClearMyBrowsingHistoryWhenImDead

From the schoolyard to the bedroom, Us Clever Monkeys (aka human beings) are gonna fight. As we've creaked into our 40s, we've (hopefully, #maybe) evolved past throwing things and restraining orders and now are trying to learn how to argue, disagree, express negative emotions constructively and other PhD-level adulting skills with our romantic partners. #ButILikeToCuss #UrNotTheBossOfMe #Lame

What are the Rules of Fight Club when you're fighting with a loved one? How do you know how to learn and evolve when you were raised in the emotional equivalent of gladiator games? #TherapyDude 

Isn't the point of a fight to win? #DontBeALoser #ImAlwaysRight #YouShouldntBeAngry

Join Blake and Bonnie as they explore the rules of fighting fair and the ways in which arguments can go horribly wrong, and try to benefit from their somewhat successful years of therapy on how best to do that awful human thing - communicate. #AlsoLame #IdLikeToSpeakToAManager #MFisALoveWord

Audio engineering by Jamey Young

Art by Emily Taylor