Your kid used to ask why the sky was dark, why rules exist, why you made that face. Now he asks what's due. That shift isn't only adolescence, it's adaptation. This episode names exactly what happened, and gives you one move that starts rewarding something different at home.

This episode draws in part on research in:

• Self-determination theory — the conditions that sustain or undermine intrinsic motivation (Ryan & Deci, 2000)
• Effects of extrinsic reward structures on intrinsic motivation — meta-analysis of 128 studies (Deci, Koestner & Ryan, 1999)
• Parental autonomy support and children's motivational outcomes (Grolnick & Ryan, 1989)
• Development of academic self-concept and intrinsic motivation across childhood (Wigfield et al., 1997)
• Interest development and the role of environment in sustaining curiosity over time (Hidi & Renninger, 2006)