Ten years ago, Jan Warner lost the "person who held her kite string"—her husband Artie. In the years after his death, Jan wrestled with suicidal thoughts and the urge to wallow. She began writing in an attempt to wear different "perspecticles" about her loss, and in 2018, she published a book called Grief Day by Day that speaks to grievers through a year's worth of quotes and exercises. Today, we're talking about the very real feeling of wanting to die after a loved one dies, changing how we measure effort and productivity after loss, and how to reframe "Is this normal?" into another, more important question.

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