We see this a lot in toxic relationships. I have certainly witnessed it in the family I grew up in. With our parents constantly attacking our boundaries, my sisters and I developed a defense mechanism: a set of unhealthy attitudes and behavior we developed in order to cope.

- Within abuse, we develop toxic ways to compensate for boundaries being constantly ignored

- Our boundaries determine our shape in the world so that being disrespected will trigger a response of some sort

- Often we resort to toxic behaviors to deal with a toxic situation

Here is the Healing Academy module I mention: http://swanwaters.com/personal-boundaries-module/