In this Episode i talk to Mark England, co-founder and head coach at Enlifted. We discuss the power of words and stories and how they shape our mindset. He shares his background in martial arts and wrestling and how these experiences led him to explore the impact of language on our lives. Mark emphasizes the importance of thinking about our thinking and the need to breathe well around children. He also addresses the inherited nature of asthma and guides Max through a process called four-stepping a story to release its emotional charge. In this conversation, Mark England and Max discuss the power of language and storytelling in shaping our mindset and emotions. They explore personal energy and emotions, reactions to challenging situations, and the fear of others. Mark emphasizes the importance of slowing down and using breath to change stories. They also discuss the victim mentality and language patterns that contribute to it. Mark introduces the four-step method for changing language and shares insights on the reticular activating system and its impact on our perspectives.

Connect with Mark:

https://enlifted.me/

@enliftedcoaches

Takeaways

The stories we tell ourselves shape our mindset and influence our actions.

Thinking about our thinking is crucial to avoid being manipulated by external influences.

Breathing well and using language consciously can have a profound impact on our well-being and relationships.

Inherited stories and language patterns can be transformed through awareness and intentional rewriting. Slowing down and using breath can help change our stories and mindset.

Writing down stories and connecting them with breath can lead to transformation.

Language patterns, such as projections, negations, and soft talk, contribute to the victim mentality.

Changing language patterns can shift our perspective and improve our mindset.

The reticular activating system filters our perception, and changing our language can change what we focus on.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Purpose

01:19 Mark's Background and First Experience with Choking

03:55 Mark's Passion for Martial Arts and Wrestling

07:22 Overcoming Challenges and Finding Purpose

09:24 The Power of Words and Stories

15:08 The Importance of Mindset and Thinking About Your Thinking

20:20 The Impact of Language on Children

26:31 Using Breath and Language to Influence Children

32:49 Working Through Inherited Asthma

36:43 Four-Stepping a Story

46:34 Writing and Reading the Story

48:56 Exploring Personal Energy and Emotions

49:37 Reacting to a Challenging Situation

50:19 Feeling the Fear of Others

51:24 The Power of Slowing Down and Breathing

52:11 The Importance of Practical Mindset

53:31 Using Breath to Change Stories

54:06 Writing Down Stories for Transformation

55:05 The Impact of Stories Kept in the Head

56:10 Changing Childhood Stories

57:20 The Importance of Changing Stories for Children

58:37 The Victim Mentality and Language Patterns

01:00:03 Using the Four-Step Method for Changing Language

01:03:38 Understanding the Victim Mentality

01:07:08 Language Patterns of the Victim Mentality

01:17:07 The Impact of Soft Talk Language

01:21:34 The Reticular Activating System and Changing Perspectives

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