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E92: Belonging and Healing Part 3 - Language of Belonging
Dr. Dave:
All right. Hello and welcome to the KnolShare with Dr. Dave Podcast. This is Dr. Dave Cornelius, your host. We're continuing a conversation of belonging and healing with my guest, Tracy Treacy from D & S Healing Center.
Tracy:
Woo.
Dr. Dave:
Yay, the thing is when we talk about sticks and stones can break my bones, but words could never harm me, to me that's just partially true because words matter. I think words can be harmful, especially for people in need of belonging, and even if they don't have a need for belonging, I think words can be harmful. And so for me, the word that always shows up is the N-word, which I think is a harmful word, and I said, no matter if it ends with A, personally, I don't want to continue to prolong long the use of a word that has been used to dehumanize my family and community, and other people may have a different opinion, but that's where I stand and I'm sticking to it. What about you, Tracy? What word rubs you the wrong way?
Tracy:
That's what you feel and you're sticking with it.
Dr. Dave:
That's right, it's all about that.
Tracy:
I don't know if a word rubs me the wrong way. I think it's the intention behind the word that gets me, or who it's coming from because if somebody off the street calls me something or says something to me that I'm like, "You know what, maybe they're having a bad day." I got a little bit more empathy and compassion for them, but if somebody who loves me and is part of my space where I feel like I belong, and they say something, that probably hits deeper than any... The N-word... I don't know, maybe I'm just numb to it. I've heard it so many times, it's like what the F ever.
Dr. Dave:
Right.
Tracy:
That's not my issue that you're calling me that, or that you think that, that's your issue, but when someone says, or has some meaning beside something that loves me or that say they love me, then that hurts, that affects me.
Dr. Dave:
I could totally relate to that. So, I was reading something from MIT recently and a study that they did, they were talking about we crave relationships in the same region of the brain that we crave food, that's belonging, and we experience social exclusion in the same brain area that we experience physical pain. So, what I'm thinking about is language is very powerful and we could use it to divide us, unite us and sharing the same language build camaraderie between individuals and it helps us support the shared knowledge base and words used. So, what language can be used to encourage more belonging in your opinion?
Tracy:
That's a lot.
Dr. Dave:
I know it is.
Tracy:
What came to my brain immediately is the language of love, and I guess what I mean by that is when you... And, we don't always do this because we're not always in a place to be conscious or mindful enough to do it, but speaking from the heart, as opposed to waiting to hear what someone's saying, being present, all of those things that we talk about in mindfulness, being present in the moment, taking a breath before you respond and then respond from a place of love, that's what came to mind for me, to me it's that simple. And in order to respond from a place of love, we may have to feel that we've been loved and we are loved, so that we can give and receive it, and I guess that goes back to that belonging.
Dr. Dave:
Love is one of my favorite words because my translation of it is very biblical in the sense that I'm talking about being patient and kind, and if I could bring those two aspects of my hu...
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E92: Belonging and Healing Part 3 - Language of Belonging
Dr. Dave:
All right. Hello and welcome to the KnolShare with Dr. Dave Podcast. This is Dr. Dave Cornelius, your host. We're continuing a conversation of belonging and healing with my guest, Tracy Treacy from D & S Healing Center.
Tracy:
Woo.
Dr. Dave:
Yay, the thing is when we talk about sticks and stones can break my bones, but words could never harm me, to me that's just partially true because words matter. I think words can be harmful, especially for people in need of belonging, and even if they don't have a need for belonging, I think words can be harmful. And so for me, the word that always shows up is the N-word, which I think is a harmful word, and I said, no matter if it ends with A, personally, I don't want to continue to prolong long the use of a word that has been used to dehumanize my family and community, and other people may have a different opinion, but that's where I stand and I'm sticking to it. What about you, Tracy? What word rubs you the wrong way?
Tracy:
That's what you feel and you're sticking with it.
Dr. Dave:
That's right, it's all about that.
Tracy:
I don't know if a word rubs me the wrong way. I think it's the intention behind the word that gets me, or who it's coming from because if somebody off the street calls me something or says something to me that I'm like, "You know what, maybe they're having a bad day." I got a little bit more empathy and compassion for them, but if somebody who loves me and is part of my space where I feel like I belong, and they say something, that probably hits deeper than any... The N-word... I don't know, maybe I'm just numb to it. I've heard it so many times, it's like what the F ever.
Dr. Dave:
Right.
Tracy:
That's not my issue that you're calling me that, or that you think that, that's your issue, but when someone says, or has some meaning beside something that loves me or that say they love me, then that hurts, that affects me.
Dr. Dave:
I could totally relate to that. So, I was reading something from MIT recently and a study that they did, they were talking about we crave relationships in the same region of the brain that we crave food, that's belonging, and we experience social exclusion in the same brain area that we experience physical pain. So, what I'm thinking about is language is very powerful and we could use it to divide us, unite us and sharing the same language build camaraderie between individuals and it helps us support the shared knowledge base and words used. So, what language can be used to encourage more belonging in your opinion?
Tracy:
That's a lot.
Dr. Dave:
I know it is.
Tracy:
What came to my brain immediately is the language of love, and I guess what I mean by that is when you... And, we don't always do this because we're not always in a place to be conscious or mindful enough to do it, but speaking from the heart, as opposed to waiting to hear what someone's saying, being present, all of those things that we talk about in mindfulness, being present in the moment, taking a breath before you respond and then respond from a place of love, that's what came to mind for me, to me it's that simple. And in order to respond from a place of love, we may have to feel that we've been loved and we are loved, so that we can give and receive it, and I guess that goes back to that belonging.
Dr. Dave:
Love is one of my favorite words because my translation of it is very biblical in the sense that I'm talking about being patient and kind, and if I could bring those two aspects of my hu...