It’s the blurry boundary between generosity and self-sacrifice.
Why do so many of us offer help we don’t mean?
Why do we give until we’re bitter, drained, or resentful?
And how do we reclaim a form of giving that’s grounded in real love?
If you’ve ever struggled to say no, overextended yourself to be liked, or felt guilty for having needs of your own — this is for you.
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🎬 Chapters:
00:00 – Intro
00:45 – The Best of Why We Give
01:35 – Why Do You Give?
02:11 – Giving Flowing From Abundance
03:30 – Story: Jetskis and House-Cleaning
06:57 – The Instinct to Offer With No Intent
08:34 – Sacrifice vs. Self-Sacrifice
10:28 – Where’s The Balance?
11:38 – Installing a Threshold
12:28 – Align Giving With Your Values
13:34 – Rules for The Giving Filter
16:04 – Closing Thoughts
👉 This is Part 4 of the Deleting Scarcity Series.
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