In this conversation, I talk with Shubu, a 30-year-old software salesman who works incredibly hard because he learned early that asking for help meant getting hurt.

He's juggling a demanding job, running a business, and trying to date - all while living in London on a work visa.

Shubu realized he's been "Bob the Builder" in relationships, trying to fix everything instead of being vulnerable.

We explore how his childhood math lesson trauma shaped his workaholic tendencies and his struggle to treat his inner child with kindness.

The real breakthrough came when we discovered what he'd actually do if he only worked four hours a week.

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