In this podcast, I delve into the significance of rituals through the unique lens of an autistic individual. For many on the spectrum, traditional customs can be overwhelming or even painful, highlighting the need for inclusivity and understanding. It's essential to acknowledge that not everyone experiences rituals the same way, and inclusivity means creating spaces where all feel welcome.

Rituals as Tools for Change

Rituals have the potential to be powerful tools for change. By creating new traditions that celebrate diversity or adapting existing ones to be more accessible, we can foster a world where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. Reflecting on a journal entry from May 20, 2024, I express frustration over society's narrow definitions of "normal." Instead of trying to change who we are, we should focus on developing environments and tools that help us thrive.

The Rituals of Humanity: A Dance of Joy and Reflection

Humans are ritualistic creatures, dedicating about 50% of our energy to customs, whether holiday traditions, family dinners, or casual greetings. These rituals bring fulfillment, structure, and a sense of belonging. However, not all traditions are positive. Some, like the bull run in Bogota, Colombia, have been put on hold due to their misalignment with modern values of kindness and compassion.

The Beauty in Our Rituals

Rituals can bring immense joy and connection, making us wonderfully social beings. They create shared memories and offer a sense of belonging. It's heartwarming to see how our ritualistic nature brings out the best in us.

The Shadows of Tradition

Yet, some customs perpetuate harm or division and need scrutiny. Traditions promoting malice or exclusion are those we should reconsider and evolve beyond.

Finding Balance

Finding a balance involves embracing rituals that foster joy and connection while bravely questioning and changing those that don't. Our customs define us but shouldn't confine us. They are like a dance—sometimes beautiful, sometimes awkward, but always a part of our humanity.

Drawing from Personal Experiences

From the disciplined rigor of Japanese customs to the passionate traditions of Argentina, I've learned that while cultural rituals can be overwhelming, they also offer a rich tapestry of experiences. Sitting at my Japanese kotatsu table while sipping Argentine yerba mate tea, I see the power of rituals to bridge differences and bring us together.

Conclusion

In conclusion, let's celebrate the rituals that define us, challenge us, and ultimately bring us closer. Let's embrace the good, rethink the bad, and create a world where everyone can dance their unique dance.